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ok, slightly embarassing to admit
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but im not exactly sure how to give my boyfriend a handjob... I feel i need to start repaying him for what he does to me, but i can never seem to be able to do anything! Any tips?
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Don't feel embarrassed about it, everyone has to learn somehow. Secondly this topic has been done quite a lot and it may help you more to do a search, just type in "hand job" etc in the search box.
and thirdly I would say relax, you might not ever be able to do it as well as he can, so just get the basics which are:
Keep a decent speed (It's rubbish if the girls too slow) ,and ask him if you are too tight with your grip.
*also you have a mouth, it's okay to use it*
It may be better if you ask him to wank himself off and you watch and once you feel ready, carry on from him. There's no rocket science behind it.
Good luck.
"Different strokes for different folks"
Everyone has their own tastes and preferences, so the only person who can tell you what your BF will like is your BF.
There's a world of difference between circumcised and uncircumcised for a start.
Lol
hmm if that was directed at faerielights, then don't yiou think that was a bit of a mean thing to say :rolleyes:
lol okey dokey
Well then curious, try thinking before you post anything then people won't take it the wrong way.
just ask him what he likes and let him show you but dnot be intimidated that he can do it and you aint learnt yet remember he's been learing how it works for alot longer then you
keep trying though, cos getting him out of a routine way of masturbating would be better for you both.
....and personally, guiding a womans hand to do it is a bit of a turn on
At the end of the day, there are no hard (fnar!) and fast rules about it.
Mr_Wobble
Actually, was quite funny at one stage, i told her to spit on her hand, and she had no spit, so i had to spit on her hand for her.. oh my.
He should help out as well, and shouldn't expect you to know everything either
Oh aye, and it always helps if you get your bf, to tense the muscles in his thighs.. the orgasm comes bigger, quicker, and well, b(w)etter!
So the next question is why am i more comfortable doing that than doing it with my hands?
Ok first of all I got some lotion (I used vanilla because that was what happened to be close to hand. It smells rathe sweey, baby oil is probably a better choice) between my hands and rubbed my palms together to warm it up, then basically kneeled between his legs as he lay on the bed. Then using both hands one after the other to sweep up the penis, like er..milking a cow (trying to think of a better way to describe it)...so there is one continuous movement one hand after the other. Keeping it very steady and smooth and a regular rythmn.
I didn't receive any complaints. He wasn't worth the special treatment though.
It is true that guys do get used to one way of masturbating. I hate it when a guys been single for a bit and masturbates himself regularly...it's so much harder to get him to cum then. But in the end peseverance is worth while.
But yeah if your worried just let him guide your hand, ask him to talk you through it and watch him a ouple of times, see how he does it because every bloke does things in different ways, it's just finding what he likes.