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urgh, mums, urgh
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why is it mums are soooooooo pedantic half the time? I mean it's sooooooooo annoying. It's got to me, really it has, mum has been making arguements up about EVERYTHING she possibly can, she's destroying my life, tearing it into pieces...
(the story is at my LJ)
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I got a pretty cool mum, she cares for me but lets me do my own stuff, in return I don't give her shit.
Try working with her, agree with her (It works with all women) Just nod and and say "Yes....Mum, dear, ect"
I really wish I hadn't drunk so much so early.
However, I agree that mum's can be right pains in the arse. Remember she has/had a mother too so she will more than likely realise she is upsetting you, but thats just what mums do. Hang in there. Hopefully it will blow over.
Cos your mum enjoys seeking a peak at them when you are at school;)
I miss my mom...
*babbling over*
aaaaaaw *hugs you tight*
I`m afraid it`s very easy to lose all perspective where your own kids are involved. I used to sleep all day at every opportunity when I was a teenager, and it is a fact that you need more sleep at this time of your life, but hey, if my son were sleeping all day I`d probably say something too (and yes I do have kids)Parents are hypocritical pains in the arse, but only cause they care enough to want better for you. And that`s their job.
I mean, a bad parent wouldn't give two shits what their kids got up too.
Pepsi - give your folks a break m'dear. At least their nature shows they care about you. If they let you do what you want then I would be a bit worried about them as parents!
Theyre wrong to ask this of me i tell u WRONG :P
you dont know what youve got till its gone.
I dunno what I'd do without my mam. I'm a really mammy's boy.
Sometimes she does my head in, but she's cool.
give your mum a break, and as for saying she doesnt understand what youre going through, she probably understands more than you give her credit for.
ok let Mum speak
Most parents care what their kids are up to. We only want the best, we want you to do well at school, get a decent job and make something of yourself. We care enough about you to ask "where are you going" "who are you going out with " "what time are you going to be in "
We have all been through this ourselves, you want to think yourself lucky, when I was 16 I had to be in by 9:00. I did have freedom, just as long as my parents knew where I was. To be honest in todays society it is not safe for anyone to be out alone on a night so thats why we are always giving you the 10,000 questions.
Chaos your mum cares for you, why do you think shes having a go (or how you see it having a go) ? We all have a go at the people we love, we care enough to want whats best for you:) Give her a break............she cares for you, so everytime you think shes having a go just try to imagine what it would be like if you had a Son or Daughter, im very sure you will be doing exactly the same to them as your'e mum is doing to you now:)
Trust me Chaos..............after all im a nun
chaos, i hope you can take this on the chin. i'm being straight with you here.
YOU, seem to have problems with every body you interact with.
do you have a deficiencey in social skills? seriously. you seem ill equipped to understand why people get annoyed with you. get angry with you etc. people who dont give a toss about you are given intimate details that they can jump on. people who do care about you are jumped on by you for interfering.
me thinks that you are so absorbed by self as to be unaware how other people think, act feel, understand. why do they behave as they do? you admit you have problems but...are unable to see that that makes you a problem.
you are a problem chaos if your having problems and those close to you, who may not know or understand those problems, are having to live and deal with you on a daily basis.
me thinks that you are so absorbed with SELF, that you have little understanding of the way other people have to get on with thier lives and thier problems and difficulties...which you are probably unaware of anyway...and deal with you and the problems you have. get out and help other people who have problems...the old, the homeless, the whatever..........and see how fuckin busy you end up. that busy that you'll have little time to dwell upon SELF. your problems will surface less and less as you try to find solutions to the problems of others.
as for mums.........when she suddenly goes in an accident or ilness
then tell me what a pain in the arse she was!
YOU...my friend have a lot of learning and changing to go through.
all the best for yet another year ahead...............
I sooo agree with that, it's the same as me but i do reconise it i AM a problem, because of the problems i have. Sometimes it's hard to accept yes, but it's true & you need to take a step back & think about what Morrocanm roll has said. Don't take it as him having a go though, try and use it contructively.
Good Luck Chaos
Dont be so blunt!
*runs*
sorry
there are safety limits put up around us everywhere in life. traffic signals and rules. without them the roads just wouldn't work.
when parents set boundaries and build safety mechanisms into a childs life they quite often build them in not quite the right place or forget to move them outward as the child grows. a parent might be reluctant to widen the horizons of a child, if the parent is convinced by that childs behaviour and understanding of his world, appears to be limited, difficult etc.
remember as well. YOU have no idea at all what it is to be a parent. none of us who are parents got any special training in being one. being a parent is all about love, intuition, feeling and luck a lot of the time. children of all ages put tremendous demands and expectations on parents. especialy children who are showing signs of having problems in life. parents are mere humans. just people who suddenly have to take on the task of nurturing other humans who quite often show nothing but resentment.
In my Room.... "TURN IT DOWN! I DON'T WANT TO LISTEN TO YOUR STUPID ADOLESCENT CRAP!" (That was Portishead : Dummy)
In the Computer room... "TURN IT DOWN!" (it was a bit loud so i did) 10 minutes later "TURN IT OFF! OR I'LL SEND YOU TO BED LIK
Its just a thought like, lets face it even your mums are human, they do get stressd out just like you do
Try to take note on wether at a certain time in the month they are extra ratty, or can just blow a fuse for no reason. Im not making excuses for them, but if there is a pattern to the moods this could be why:)
Two seconds off subject, I just heard some lyrics possibly applying to all of you:
"You speak for all of us when you can't be heard"
I just thought they're fitting.
I'm a confused young man, that's the bottom line really, it's all I guess I can say.
I try to be a constructive member to society, I talk to myself to try and make myself a better person, God knows if it works but I try, I try...