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hi, im new to this site and i seriously need some advice. ive kinda inadvertly asked my bf 2 move in with me and it didnt go down to well. all i said was that i;d like to move out of home some time in the next 2 yrs and i jokingly said "u fancy comming with me?"and he didnt answer. but really, if he'd have sed yeah sure i'd have been over the moon. we've been 2gether a yr and a half and we r totally in love.
i dont want 2 scare him away or move 2 fast 4 him. he's 9 yrs older than me and he's been engaged b4 and got seriously hurt and i think he is scared he'll b hurt again. especially since im only 18 and goin 2 uni next yr.(although im not moving away so we can stay 2gether) he thinks i'm gonna run off with another guy. which cudnt b further from the truth. i know he's rite 4 me. i just dont want 2 push him into anything.
so wot do u think? u think im being majorly paranoid or i shud have just kept my mouth shut?
any advice is sooooo greatfully received..
thanks
i dont want 2 scare him away or move 2 fast 4 him. he's 9 yrs older than me and he's been engaged b4 and got seriously hurt and i think he is scared he'll b hurt again. especially since im only 18 and goin 2 uni next yr.(although im not moving away so we can stay 2gether) he thinks i'm gonna run off with another guy. which cudnt b further from the truth. i know he's rite 4 me. i just dont want 2 push him into anything.
so wot do u think? u think im being majorly paranoid or i shud have just kept my mouth shut?
any advice is sooooo greatfully received..
thanks
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Also, assure him that you love him and nobody else.
Why are some people so insecure? That alwasy puzzles me!
He may be scared because of the fact that moving in together does have to have a certain level of commitment in the relationship, and maybe he's unsure. Talk to him, and see how it all goes.
Maybe ask him again, but reasure him that you love him so much and you wouldnt ever hurt him.
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I think the best thing you could do is get a place on your own or with some friends (If you are living with parents at the moment) then he would be able to visit you , stay over etc.
At the moment you are proposing a massive change for him and you and perhaps it would be useful to see how you will act by being on your own, in your own flat without trying to get him to make such a big leap into the unknown.
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