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Staying Freinds With an Ex
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Right question for both the Boys and Girls but mainly the lads..
I have recently split up with my gilfriend of two months. We where pritty good mates before this mind..
Any way things where going great and to cut a long story short one nite she decided that she didn't see us together anymore:(
Know i was and am still deverstated about it but she says that she wants to stay friends, we have some tickets to go and see Nickleback at the NEC in november and still wants me to go but i just don't know if i can deal with the hole thing:(
All of my past relationships i have walk away and that was that no contact etc.. but Charlotte is different i want to be her friend just don't know how to
How do i haddle the enevertable " this is so and so my new boy friend" OUUUCH
Anyone had any experiences to relate to this??
I have recently split up with my gilfriend of two months. We where pritty good mates before this mind..
Any way things where going great and to cut a long story short one nite she decided that she didn't see us together anymore:(
Know i was and am still deverstated about it but she says that she wants to stay friends, we have some tickets to go and see Nickleback at the NEC in november and still wants me to go but i just don't know if i can deal with the hole thing:(
All of my past relationships i have walk away and that was that no contact etc.. but Charlotte is different i want to be her friend just don't know how to
How do i haddle the enevertable " this is so and so my new boy friend" OUUUCH
Anyone had any experiences to relate to this??
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Basicallly, just make sure you're always there for your ex when she needs you, but don't chase her, and you'll be fine. It is hard, so i wish you the best of luck, and as Andy says, if you want to contact me feel free to PM or email me whenever you like. Just remember, it does get easier with time.
good luck
luv Vicky
Seriously if its anything like my mate your just gonna be hurting yourself, it might not be worth it.
Only you can make the desicion in the end tho and i get the feeling your gonna stay friends with your ex no matter what anyone says
best of luck to you
I've kind of went through the same thing, except my ex was the one that didn't want to stay in touch. It hurts, and it will continue doing so until you brain-wash yourself...
Maybe you should honestly ask yourself why you want to continue to be her friend and stay in contact. Is it because she's a great person? Or is it because you're really attracted to her? Or is it because you're thinking that there will be second chance for things? It really comes down to why, and what youre expectations are for the future.
When we split i thought it was going to be so hard because i felt like part of his family. But his family insisted that i was still part of the family and always always welcome. Spending a lot of time with him after we split made things so much easier (dont get me wrong though, it absolutly killed me and having him walk in and do the whole "kel this is my new girlfriend" thing just tore me apart!):crying:
I think spending time togther on a friends basis helps, maybe that sounds stupid but it worked for me.
good luck mate
I just think people are better moving on really,but if they mean to be friends then they should be.It can be hard for people to be friends after they have finished though.
Felixthecat, it's a sad cliche, but time is a great healer. take some time apart, it really does make it much easier. in my experience if you try and act all 'best mates' immediately after the break up it just gets really confusing and you can end up kidding yourself into think that your ex wants things back as they were.
explain to her that you need some time out to get your head sorted. tell her that you will be her friend, in time, and that you don't wanna lose contact. i am sure if she wants to still be your mate that she will understand and give you the time you need.
hope that helps mate. sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. just take as much time as you need. everyone heals at different rates.
i totally sympathise though... good luck
i hate my ex's guts now and the feeling is mutual!
healthy!
muchas gracias!