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Guilty for no reason??
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I'm 19 yrs old (20 next week) and have been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months. He has got a great best mate who, over time, has consequently become my best mate.
We go out everywhere together when i am home from uni and he even drives the 160 mile round trip occasionnally with my boyfriend.
Now heres the thing, i fancied this chap Mark, long before i got together with my bloke. I love my boyfriend but i do have some feelings for his mate. Its only lust but it makes me feel sooooooooo guilty?
What should i do? Can i do anything? I would never do anything with this guy and there is no way of spending less time with him as my bloke starts to get suspicious coz he knows that we are all mates.
The final part of this is that my parents think that mark is the better one for me and just won't let it drop. He is closer to my age than my bloke.
I'm not sure if u can give me any advice or if u have been through the same thing but i do feel better just by having told someone so thanx 4 listening (well reading)
xxxx
We go out everywhere together when i am home from uni and he even drives the 160 mile round trip occasionnally with my boyfriend.
Now heres the thing, i fancied this chap Mark, long before i got together with my bloke. I love my boyfriend but i do have some feelings for his mate. Its only lust but it makes me feel sooooooooo guilty?
What should i do? Can i do anything? I would never do anything with this guy and there is no way of spending less time with him as my bloke starts to get suspicious coz he knows that we are all mates.
The final part of this is that my parents think that mark is the better one for me and just won't let it drop. He is closer to my age than my bloke.
I'm not sure if u can give me any advice or if u have been through the same thing but i do feel better just by having told someone so thanx 4 listening (well reading)
xxxx
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As for what your parents think - who ever paid any attention to that
At the end of the day, even the most in love person in the world is still going to appreciate the attractiveness of others.
Extremely true. Every lusts after what they can't have. It's natural. Stick with your boyfriend and try not to surround yourself so often with Mr. Lust.
You could always try both of them together..............
It was going to be said sooner or later!
exactly!!!!
here something a friend told me - just because your on a diet doesnt mean you cant smell the cakes!!!!!!
I feel a lot better knowing that you lot don't think i should feel guilty
I think that i will steer clear of having both of them doctor lurve!! but thanx 4 the suggestion;)
Hiya how are you ?
I agree i think you are quite sensible and as long as you don't allow yourself to be in a situation with the other guy (ie alone drunk in a bedroom )
hope it all goes well !:)