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Oh my god! This is truly...oh my god!
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I'm bi and I've just come out as a lot of you know and last night I was a bit drunk and I shagged a woman, she's my lesbian friend who I've been seeing for a little while and I don't fancy her that much. Now I feel so disgusted with myself, I don't know why cos I've come out and everything, its just OH MY GOD! And whats worst I enjoyed it... Don't berate me.
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Yes i know, im extreamly great at doing all the right things...or so ive been told. Yes im bitter.
Well done!, Good on you!??
You are "disgusted with myself" but you enjoyed it. Hello you are Bi and you can shag who you please.
I just hope you learn not to shag friends because it can become ugly
What sort of advice are you looking for?
I think you might be feeling disgusted with yourself because you've done this for the first time with someone you really don't fancy in a sexual way. My suggestion is that instead of getting drunk and rushing into something just to get it over with you should wait for the right time and the right woman to really explore this side of yourself with.
Personally, I don't think sex and alcohol make a good mix. It's hard to make responsible and mature decisions while in a drunken state and I really hate it when someone uses the fact that they were drunk to excuse their actions and behaviours. I was married to an alcoholic and drug abuser for 13 years so I know all the excuses. I'm not putting you down, nor am I judging you, but you are too young to get caught up in an ugly cycle that could end up being a lifetime habit.
Find an older lesbian or bi-sexual woman that you feel an attraction for and get your experience with her, in a situation that is made of mutual respect and affection. Be choosy and remind yourself that you are worth more than a drunken fling
I just hope I was able to help out a little to ease your feelings about yourself
*giggles childishly*
We've all fealt that way with members of our opposite sex. If its worth doing do it right!
Fair play to you jelly I think the only reason you are feeling bad about this is because you didnt have deep feelings for the girl....Chill out and dont rush into any situations like this again.