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Feeling Pressured!
Millicento_
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Really hating how I am right now.
I got advised to do yoga, and I also do some skipping which also helped me lose weight and tone up a bit. That bit is the best as I was never as thin as all the other girls. Only now, particularly over Christmas, I've been eating without having too much thought over what I'm eating so long as it tastes good. I do still try yoga and skipping but having ASD means I have general routines of when and what day I take a shower.
Ridiculous huh?!
Thats how it is. So a day like today when I haven't quite considered my intake I feel like I cannot under any circumstance put weight back on because that will steepen that already deep decline of self esteem. I still have like zero percent self esteem...but this cannot change.
So therefore I'm adding more pressure onto myself. Too nervous to bring this up in a conversation face to face as I feel they will judge how I look and how I am perhaps even more than they already are, and so its just like a dark cloud I'm carrying about with me.
I just need someone to understand. To be on a similar level. I don't want to stand out even more than I already do 😔
I got advised to do yoga, and I also do some skipping which also helped me lose weight and tone up a bit. That bit is the best as I was never as thin as all the other girls. Only now, particularly over Christmas, I've been eating without having too much thought over what I'm eating so long as it tastes good. I do still try yoga and skipping but having ASD means I have general routines of when and what day I take a shower.
Ridiculous huh?!
Thats how it is. So a day like today when I haven't quite considered my intake I feel like I cannot under any circumstance put weight back on because that will steepen that already deep decline of self esteem. I still have like zero percent self esteem...but this cannot change.
So therefore I'm adding more pressure onto myself. Too nervous to bring this up in a conversation face to face as I feel they will judge how I look and how I am perhaps even more than they already are, and so its just like a dark cloud I'm carrying about with me.
I just need someone to understand. To be on a similar level. I don't want to stand out even more than I already do 😔
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I'm really sorry that you're feeling like this. I hear you and I understand what you're going through, I used to feel the exact same way as you are now. I am actually just writing a blog post about this pressure to be aware of your intake of food and it's effect on your weight. I want you to know that food is energy not the enemy. Eat what makes you happy, and try not to be too hard on yourself during this time. It's okay to eat more at Christmas and New Year. Your weight doesn't determine your worth, you are worthy purely because you exist and you are who you are. I know this time of year is hard because of the immense amount of pressure from adverts and celebrities honing in on our imperfections or encouraging diets etc. I just want you to know that taking care of your health is a marathon, not a sprint. It's a lifelong habit. I would suggest not to weigh yourself because what's on the scales will fluctuate dramatically throughout the day and are not at all an accurate representation of your weight. Just do what you can when you can, and try not to put too much pressure on yourself to get it done.
You could maybe create a workout plan, where it's in a non-pressure way. You could even just go for a walk each day if this is something that you're able to do, I understand this can be difficult. If you start off small and with few days, you can gradually build back up to a routine that works best for you. Remember your workouts are meant to work around you and your schedule, even a short walk each day will do wonders for you and your mental health. I know it's such a difficult time of year, so please be kind to yourself, you're doing the best you can within your circumstances and that's all that matters.
Sending you love and strength
Thank you for even reading all my rambling...glad someone out there notices me💚
It can be so easy to compare ourselves to others, but we're all on our own journey, and it can be hard to focus on our achievements when our brains are wired into our negativity bias, so I just wanted to say how proud of you I am, and thank you for reaching out to us! I completely understand, but there are so many other options available to us. Are there any exercises in particular that you really enjoy doing?. We're always always here for you, so please don't hesitate to reach out when you need it! You're very important and so is your mental health
I don't know if you have seen but the info section on The Mix's site has articles that might interest you https://www.themix.org.uk/your-body.
@Brookee Thank you for sharing your own experince as well, sounds like a interesting blog your writing.
Keep us updated on how things are going.
Keep going. You are doing great!
I just want to say hi! I recognised your post too.
As everyone else has already said, please only do as much or as little exercise as you want to for your health.
No routine is ridiculous. Hey, I like routine too! But probably because I also have ASD.
Just make sure it is a routine that makes you happy, that you enjoy and that is achievable for you