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[OLD] The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)

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    GreenTeaGreenTea Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Really struggling tonight. Had a lot of support to keep me going but feeling alone
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    Seeing crisis team at 3. Really could do with a chat
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    GreenTeaGreenTea Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    My emotions are all over the place, triggers are everywhere. Struggling to keep myself together. I really hate this time of the year. So many hard memories and truama
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @GreenTea

    I am sorry to hear you are struggling. Would you like to talk about what has made you feel this way?
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    edited December 2021
    People can judge but they will never know the amount of pain and hurt you feel or the shit you have been through
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Shaunie

    Who is judging you? :/

    We may never know but we can listen and stand by your side through it <3
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    Hi @Shaunie

    Who is judging you? :/

    We may never know but we can listen and stand by your side through it <3

    No one. But that’s what a paramedic told me if anyone judges me by my status I wrote. Which I’m sure people are doing
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Oh phew! @Shaunie

    Hopefully, no one is judging you.

    If they are, it says more about them than it does you <3
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    If it worked it would be 3 days since I died
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Well, I am really glad it didn't @Shaunie.

    You are a wonderful person. We are all really glad you are here with us still <3
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    Suicidal 🙃
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Shaunie

    Sorry to hear you are feeling that way. Would you like to talk to us about anything?

    What time do you have the crisis team today?

    Please also remember that Samaritans and Papyrus are always here for you. They are just a phone call or message away, like us <3
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    Hi @Shaunie

    Sorry to hear you are feeling that way. Would you like to talk to us about anything?

    What time do you have the crisis team today?

    Please also remember that Samaritans and Papyrus are always here for you. They are just a phone call or message away, like us <3

    They said they will see me tomorrow now
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    I am sorry to hear this @Shaunie

    Are you able to tell them that you are struggling?

    They might re-jig.

    If not, we are certainly here for you.

    As @Jellyelephant said, remember all the skills you have learnt <3
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    GreenTeaGreenTea Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Managed to do a few bits today round the house. Feeling utterly exhausted now from it. I want to start feeling better but my thoughts and urges say otherwise. Battling hard the last few days to keep myself safe
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Well done @GreenTea.

    How do you feel about getting jobs done around the house?

    I always feel relieved when I have got jobs done around the house :)

    Though, of course, jobs around the house can also be tiring.

    Make sure you have a mini rest now after all that productivity!

    Would you like to talk to us about how you are feeling and what has led to your thoughts and urges?

    We think you are doing a rather amazing job at keeping going.

    Keep putting one foot in front of the other <3
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    HarryIsHereHarryIsHere Posts: 16 Settling in
    Shaunie wrote: »
    Suicidal 🙃
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    Hi @Shaunie

    Sorry to hear you are feeling that way. Would you like to talk to us about anything?

    What time do you have the crisis team today?

    Please also remember that Samaritans and Papyrus are always here for you. They are just a phone call or message away, like us <3

    You’ve been really brave to share this with us @Shaunie <3. It sounds like things are a bit difficult right now, but we’re here to help you through this. How are you feeling at the moment?

    @Laura_tigger82 has shared some really useful organisations for support :D, and I just wanted to echo this by sharing the links to our services, as well as links to the Samaritans, Papyrus and Support Line.
    Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258

    Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org

    Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org

    Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200

    Childline | call 0800 11 11

    Let us know how you’re doing, we’re here for you 😊.
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    I just want to remind you all that we are here for you. We are just a message or call away, the same as the helplines shared! <3
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    ItaliaItalia Posts: 220 Trailblazer
    @Zay

    I'm so sorry to hear that you have just had your heart broken. That is honestly the worst. We're here for you. <3

    “People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.”
    -     Brene Brown

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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Sending lots of hugs to all those who need them :heart:
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Thinking of you @Dancer. That sounds really stressful! We are here for you. How did dinner go today?

    And thanks @*BananaMonkey* sending you lots of hugs too <3
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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Sending lots of hugs @Mel_

    We are here for you. :heart:
    " And everywhere I am, there you'll be, your love made me make it through, oh I owe so much to you "
    " So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
    '' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Indeed, we are sending you lots of hugs @Mel_ <3

    If you would like to talk to us about anything, please feel free :3

    We are here for you <3
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    Past UserPast User Definition of a mental mess and a certified lost cause :) EnglandPosts: 0 Just got here
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    Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,107 Part of The Furniture
    Thanks @LorryTruck <3

    How are you? :3
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit
    I’m feeling really awful I need help
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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