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[OLD] The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)

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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    @Shaunie no worries  <3

    It's awful that he got turned away, a lot of people have to go to their GP quite a few times before something is actually done I did and it sucked big time so I really do empathize with him.I had to go 4 times before being taken seriously. It must have taken a lot for him to reach out in the first place I just hope that it hasn't put him off from reaching out again even if it's to charities like CALM.

    A more harmful behavior, yikes! Shaunie, that's definitely not okay but I'm glad that you were able to tell him that his suggestions were unhelpful. Sounds like he doesn't really know how best to support you, he might not know a lot about how to support someone with BPD. It's deffo something that needs to be read about and discussed too.  

    I don't this thread to go ooooon because it's a shared thread and I feel like I'm talking too much. If you need more advice or want to discuss things some more, I deffo recommend making a thread or if you want  drop me a PM whenever lol

    I'm okay, feeling better I wish I had a pet, I find dogs make me happy for some reason. They're just really cute and happy and squishy.
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    SciFi_456SciFi_456 Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    @SpaceOtter

    Hi Errrin,

    I'm sorry you're feeling this way. School or other places of education can be very overwhelming, especially during covid. What sort of work have you been doing?

    I felt out of place when I was at school. It can make you feel really anxious and you wonder what the point of going to school is. You deserve all the support you want and it doesn't make you weak or silly, I promise 🙂.

    Well done for keeping your head up high and going into school. That is a brave thing to do. It may be uncomfortable however it'll get easier. You're not unwanted and you're not a burden to us because we all care about you. If you ever wanna talk about anything, feel free to PM me.

    Stay strong 💪🏻

    -Liam ❤️
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    Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    Thank you @SciFi_456 that means a lot.

     I’m in my last year of a level during covid we’ve been emailed work. Since I was allowed back in I just do the exact same work every one else is but at school, it’s weird. It’s mostly past paper questions and things like that. I can never concentrate at home I get stuck in my head and find myself spiralling. 

    I spent the whole day torn between feeling relieved about catching up and wanting to cry or hide away for feeling like a nuisance. It just left me feeling drained.

    Thanks again ,If you ever need anything I’m always happy to listen. You’re awesome big hugs  <3
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    SciFi_456SciFi_456 Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    @SpaceOtter anytime ❤️

    It's quite handy to do past paper questions because it's good practice for the real thing. I hope it all goes well.

    Sorry again to hear about how you're feeling. And thank you for what you said I really appreciate it ❤️
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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    Emoji246 said:
    I have zoom lessons tomorrow and I can’t sleep any advice 🥺❤️
    Heyyy

    How are feeling about tomorrow and what's making you feel that way? 
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,499 Skive's The Limit
    edited January 2021
    It’s been 4 years since I had my longest section stay and why did I choose to read my posts from 2017 about it. 
    Fml triggeringgggg
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 7,794 Master Poster
    I go back to school today because my mum is a key worker and I am classed as vulnerable. Quite worried about it but trying to stay calm.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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    Anch0r33Anch0r33 Posts: 1,201 Wise Owl
    Lol when the student funding still leaves you in an overdraft :astonished: 
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    GreenTeaGreenTea Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Anch0r33 said:
    Lol when the student funding still leaves you in an overdraft :astonished:


    That's the worst!! 
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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    @Emoji246 I'm sorry that it's been happening  😢 it must really exhausting and scary to have to go through it every night. I wish I could make go away. 

    I've just thought of something!

    Do you ever write things down? If so do you reckon you'd find it helpful have pm journal to write in before bed and every time you have a worry, you write down what it is you're feeling, why you're feeling it and what you can do to help reassure yourself? 

    So thats:

    What's the feeling? 
    Why am I feeling this (talk about the trigger)? 
    What can I do to make the situation better in the long term? 

    Sometimes getting problem solving continuous issues can help make them smaller so that eventually they won't end up having such a big effect.

    Hope you have a fab day at online school ❤️
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    Past UserPast User Posts: 1,997 Extreme Poster
    Good luck @Dancer hope everything goes well for you! 
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    _Tech_Addict_Girl_Tech_Addict_Girl Posts: 1,489 Wise Owl
    edited January 2021
    Hey @Salix_alba_2019 thankyou that’s a good idea I do have a diary but I stopped writing in it for ages.
    But I think I will give your idea a go but insisted of writing it in a diary when it gets close to night time I will write it on here like make a diary on here so you guys can see to.
    Thankyou I will let you know how my online school went after I finished ❤️
    Also if you ever need to talk just pm me 
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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    @Emoji246 awww yay! Super proud of you and I hope that things get better. we'll always be here if you need a listening ear or a rant 

    No worries, take care ❤️
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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    Millie2787 said:
    Hate calling in sick to work they always sound so judgmental but all week I’ve been feeling nauseous and now I’ve threw up this morning and can’t keep anything down and just feel all shakey
    I hope you feel better soon ❤️
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    GreenTeaGreenTea Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Had a real hug for the first time in months and it felt amazing. 
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    Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    It’s ok @Laine I understand what you mean, it’s ok to feel completely down some days  and exhausted of it all. Just remember you’re never ever alone. You help so many people just never forget we all care about you, we’re always happy to listen . And on the days you don’t feel like talking just remember we’re there in spirit cheering you on. We all believe in you Laine and you’re never alone . You’re doing so well. Big hugs  <3
    (sorry if this was weird)
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    SciFi_456SciFi_456 Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    Hey @Dandelion d'you want to talk about it?
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    Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    Hey @Dandelion we’re here if you need anything. Always happy to listen but no pressure. Sometimes when I’m struggling with thoughts and feelings like that I write them down then find a good distraction like watching a good film. Sometimes it helps to imagine if someone else was in my position what would I say to them and how I would react. We often aren’t as kind to ourselves as we are others and sometimes hold ourselves to really high standards. (Sorry if this came across patronising). Big hugs, we all care about you here if you ever need anything  <3
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    Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Just got here
    Hi @BubblesGoesBoo I don’t think we’ve spoken before so sorry if this sounds weird, but we’re all here if you need anything. Big hugs always happy to listen  <3
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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    Dandelion said:
    I’m scared I did something wrong at work, the more I think about it the more I’m sure I messed it up. I’m scared people will get annoyed at me for messing it up. I can’t stop thinking about it. 

    Hey @Dandelion You're still learning and you're still relatively new to the job, mistakes are bound to happen it's a part of the learning process. I'd be concerned if you didn't make any mistakes lol . For real though, try not to beat yourself up about it, you're doing your best ;)
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    Salix_alba_2019Salix_alba_2019 Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    Millie2787 said:
    What id give for some nuggets, or a roast or just some decent food but I Literally cannot stomach anything . Not even bloody a plain cracker and water  :/
    @Millie2787

    Have you tried ginger biscuits? I usually have them when I feel nauseous and it helps, wise words from a pregnant lady 
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