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Driving and money.
Siena
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My sister is offering me £500 to spend on learning to drive and when i get a job that gives me proper money then i give it to her. And she says its not like im her friend. She will know she will get it back at one point and £500 hardly makes a dent in her account atm.
It is a nice offer but i don’t know what to say about it. I know it sounds nice but it is actually probably mostly for selfish reasons. She said she needs motivation to do her driving and if i was doing mine then that would motivate her and would actually get some where. Which then just makes me feel bad cause i feel like im dragging her back cause she is waiting for me when i dont even really wanna do it. Cause we are twins and she seems to think we need to do these life stages at literally the same time. Driving isnt really something i care about atm but my sister seems to really want me to start learning and i dont want to hold her back. And even my older sister is saying its a good idea as would branch to more job opportunities too. And i don’t know really know what im suppose to say to it cause it would stress me out knowing i owe my sister £500 and i dont barely have a job. I do have a job but it gives me £250 a month and i barely have any money for myself and money goes very fast even on basic things and give my dad money too. So would never be able to pay her back with the money i earn atm. And with this cvirus pretty hard to get a job anytime soon. I would like to drive at some point in my life but its not my mentallity atm plus it scares the shit out of me that you could literally kill someone/people by driving
And just kinda wanted peoples opinions on it
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I passed my test with no minors and ended up loving driving. I've got so much more freedom now since I passed. I saved up for my own car though which is a major part of that freedom.
Driving is something I'd definitely recommend but not in the way your sister wants to do it, if that makes sense. Do it because you want to and when you're able to financially support yourself.
Running a car is expensive and I'm struggling with it. You have to pay the monthly repayments for the car, insurance and fuel as well as any other running costs/mot etc.
Sometimes it's more worthwhile relying on public transport. Mine is a long term investment because I travel a lot so need to get myself places but if you don't need to go too far I'd say wait until you feel ready.
Best of luck
(_) | ()---|---() | | __ | __ |\ /^\ /| '..-' '-..' `-._ _.-` `thank you for your views @Lucy307 @Mike @Anch0r33 ! Super helpful.
yeah defo can't afford a car anytime soon. Feels like a fun way to spend my time of learning. how long in hours of driving lessons did you roughly take you to learn to drive ?