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moving too fast?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i am a 15 year old homosexual. I have come out to my mum and sister and a few friends but noone else. I am also very lonely and hoping for a relationship too soon. Do you think this is silly considering i am basically breaking the law if i do do anything? also do you think it is wrong that i am looking for someone older? i am interested only in people older, ranging from about 17 to thirty something, but if the right guy came along i would maybe go for older than that. Is this really all that bad? I discussed this with my sister, and she said it was disgusting. she explained how she would not even look at someone over 21 (she is 18). feedback would be appreciated as this is a difficult situation i am in.
yours,
jon.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok over 30 something is a bit dodgy even if you are gay :(

    Theres a risk of paedophilia there :eek:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If I was you, I would forget about the sexual aspect of having a relationship, at least for a year or two. I had a gay experience with someone when I was about your age, and if I could turn back time, I wouldn't have let it happen.

    As far as having a relationship goes, its difficult. Its different for gay people because people around your age who are "gay", are in reality really confused about their sexuality, and often change their mind about it. It makes it all the harder to develop a stable relationship. By the way, I'm not suggesting that you are in any way confused, I'm just talking from my own experiences.

    So it might be difficult for you to form a relationship with someone right now, you are still very young. By all means, if the right person comes along then go for it, but make sure you are ready for it. And please dont get involved (at least sexually) with someone a lot older than you, it will only lead to trouble.

    You sound like a sensible enough bloke, just concentrate on having a laugh for now.

    Good luck mate

    Brian
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As said in the above, dont even think about a relationship yet.

    You just wait till you go to the night clubs and see girls walking around in little hot pants & sexy bra's.

    It's then you will realise your not gay or maybe BI.

    Just have fun with mates (i mean football, drink, cinema etc):D

    Hope I haven't affended you, i just think you need to experiance a few things before you can definatly be sure!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What the fuck is this all about? You have one cunt saying that all you need is to see a sexy girl and youll suddenly not be gay, and we have some over turdface saying linking homosexuality with paedophilia.

    *bangs head on wall*

    The advice is the same mind, take things slowly with your sexuality, and dont be in a rush to stereotype yourself. Especially at 15, when sexuality is still up in the air and very confusing. But, having said that, dont worry too much about the legal aspect if you are sure you are ready for sex, as the age of consent is 16 now anyway.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit, what i said was :- "It's then you will realise your not gay or maybe BI."

    Maybe BI is the key in that. Just like you said he's only 15, he carn't be sure that he's gay at that age.

    I wouldn't advise that he has gay sex at that age, like i said live life a bit experiance new things and if at around 17 you still feel the same then maybe think about things like that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he carn't be sure that he's gay at that age.

    trust me i am gay, there is nothing but nothing a girl can ever do to turn me on, i have seen lesbian hardcore porn and it doesn't turn me on, when i watch straight i only watch the guy and gay turns me on a lot.

    I have known i'm gay since i understood the meaning of the word.

    I have had experiences with a girl and we nearly had sex but i couldn't go through with it because i was arousing myself thinking of men and she thought it was her, i felt too guilty.

    I have also done minor things with guys since i was four and they were a turn on. I cannot stress how sure i am that i am gay, it isn't up in the air or anything, i am truely 100% gay.

    thankyou for all your views, but there is no way i am bi or straight. :)
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