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I don't deserve it, it's not fair!
sozforhappy
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I've so had enough of my parents blaming my silly faults like missing what they say or forgetting house chores on my favourite stuff like music, my phone and books. its not fair and I don't want to care why they have that attitude, I don't intend to do those things, it doesn't mean I deserve for my favourite stuff to be taken away from me or blamed on even if they are right which I don't want to hear at all. I hate hate hate them for being so snarky and unfair. Likewise blaming my temperamental behaviour on my favourite TV shows when I was younger. Either they stop being so mean or lay off communicating with me altogether .I cant help that I'm still living under their roof, I'm grown up they've no right to punish me for that situation. Not to mention making me feel bad about the things I love. Making habits of those things isn't a reason to blame my favourite things either!! they're not necessarily habits if it's unintentional every time it happens. I'm really sick of being their daughter and so wish I wasnt part of the family. Even other parents don't take such attitude and harsh discipline
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It sounds like your parents often blame you for things that you have no control over.
Do you have any hobbies that could get you out of the house for a while? With summer approaching, now might be a really good time to take up an outdoor sport or activity. Even running can be quite cathartic, as well as good for your body and overall mood. You can even take your music with you and listen to it in peace.
if you have chores but you have difficulty sticking to a task
you can set aside 10 or minutes per hour to do your share of the work
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perhaps you can write a list of things you have to do so you dont forget
how are they blaming you for your favorite things?
being selfish isnt a sustainable way of life
we must all make comprimeses
and learn to accept deal with and learn to properly communicate with others
what are your parents doing that other parents arent doing
Hi @sozforhappy
It sounds like you're having a bit of a difficult time. It's hard as we get older and want our independence but we still live with our parents.
Have you thought about maybe making a time management schedule. I find these really useful!There's lots of great templates on Google.
That way you can pop in some time for you to complete your chores and also some 'downtime' where you can do all your favourite things. Maybe if you complete a schedule and then show your parents so they can see that you are putting some time in to help them around the house but you also need some time to yourself listening to music or watching TV too?
Even when you don't live with your parents, you'll still have to do chores (and probably more chores!) so it's good to get into the habit. I absolutely hate doing chores around my house but try and reward myself with one of my favourite things as a treat after I've done them
Have you spoken to your parents about how it feels when they criticise the things you like? It sounds like it really gets you down but you can always talk to us about it here!