Is it wrong/selfish of me to ask him to quit smoking pot?
I've fallen fast and hard for an amazing man, whom I also respect and admire. He inspires me to be a better person, just by how well he treats me, and he says it's the same way for him. There's only one problem. I am dead set against drug use, and he has been regularly using pot, and I don't know for how long. When he realized just how much I hate it, he said if I asked him to, he would quit. He felt that it was wasting his money, and it was a big risk because of the kind of career he wants, but all his friends/family smoke it and he used it for stress relief, so he never really tried to quit. Just backed off of it some. He said that meeting me has given him hope that he CAN get out of this, and live a better life. I though about it a couple weeks, and said yes, i'd like him to try to quit if he really does want to, but not to change himself for me. It doesn't work to change for someone else. He did quit, cold turkey. That day. I feel so guilty, seeing him go through withdrawal. I want to ease the stress and take his headaches away, but there's nothing I can really do. I know it's going to be really difficult, and he may re-laps. Was it wrong of me to ask something so difficult? What can I do to help make it hurt less?