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Love my female friend who has a boyfriend..HELP?
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So, I have been friends with girl for a year however recently i have had a different kind of feeling towards her.She knows how I feel about her but she has a boyfriend.
I really do love her and want us to be together but as she has a boyfriend,that cant happen.
What can i do??xx
I really do love her and want us to be together but as she has a boyfriend,that cant happen.
What can i do??xx
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It is the same friend as i mentioned a while ago.She has a boyfriend still now, even though she asked me to be her girlfriend, but now feels disloyal to him.Its complicated.
She saids she does love me though.
I love her a lot and cannot stop thinking about her,But the 'videos dont help with that either x
Think about yourself, make yourself your own point of focus, don't worry about her so much and don't think about what she wants.
She wants to be with me, as shes told me, but doesnt want to leave her boyfriend
How do i not think about her?
Its kind of complicated to explain
Those things are mutual exclusive, except everybody involved would be into a 3-way relationship. Look what actions say, not the words. "I want to be with you" and not taking action to actually do so are empty words.
If you want to move on from someone you turn down communication by many notches. Like not initiating contact. Don't look at her facebook and do things that distract you from thinking about her. An idle mind is the devils playground, so pursue hobbies, or meet different people. Occupy your mind with things that are not her.
So I mean look after yourself, if she decides to leave him to enter your world, then that's a different story, but right now, she is with him.
So focus on you, your life, your hobbies, your wellbeing, and let the world around you fall into place. Find someone who is single, maybe date someone else to see how that makes you feel about this girl. Easier said than done I know, but don't create a fairy-tale story in your head.
It sounds like what you're feeling for your friend could be confusing because they're with someone else. It's hard to move on when you do have feelings for someone, but localboy has offered some great advice - try to surround yourself with other friends, or even a hobby that you enjoy to help distract yourself.
There's one thing liking someone who's single and seeing where it goes, but liking someone who's in a relationship is a trickier situation and you need to make sure you don't get hurt.
Let us know how you get on
Thank you for the advice, again
I can see what you mean and i do understand.
Its just kind of hard.xx
That's true except i dont really know what i want or am after in terms of this though.Sorry.
I hate looking after myself and have very little self care soo....
I guess your right though.Thank you xx
It is very confusing.The whole idea of sexuality is still pretty confusing for me and it is a horrible feeling.He has offered me some good adbice though yes.
Thank you!
And merry christmas all!xx