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How to deal with an angry drunk?
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One of my friends always seems to get so angry and upset when she is drunk; she will be really friendly and bubbly beforehand and as soon as she has had a few drinks she'll start to accuse our friend group of talking behind her back or she will take me aside and question me about why a certain friend is ignoring her. We are a friendly and inclusive group so I am not sure why she feels this way.
I was able to brush it off the first few times but recently on nights out she has started to get like this every time I dance with a different friend or go off by myself. Initially I tried talking through it with her but she just doesn't listen. I've also tried to just walk away from it , but the next day (we live together) she just acts like nothing happened so I am unsure whether she just doesn't remember or is choosing not to confront it.
Does anyone have any experiences of resolving this kind of issue?
I was able to brush it off the first few times but recently on nights out she has started to get like this every time I dance with a different friend or go off by myself. Initially I tried talking through it with her but she just doesn't listen. I've also tried to just walk away from it , but the next day (we live together) she just acts like nothing happened so I am unsure whether she just doesn't remember or is choosing not to confront it.
Does anyone have any experiences of resolving this kind of issue?
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We never mention it in the morning. Sometimes she brings it up and will apologise and we are nice about it. I know it stems from other issues which we will discuss when she's sober and I have all the time in the world for her sober crying and things.
One thing she does do (which seems to work) is write herself a message on her hand saying something along the lines of 'your friends don't hate you. Stop crying and think about it in the morning.' When she gets in a state we tell her to read it and remind her that she wrote it herself.
Ask her (when she's sober) why she feels that way. Try and have a sensible discussion about it and reassure her. If she feels secure in your friendship then, maybe she'll stop having to let all the insecurities bubble up when she's been drinking.