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I wonder if people aren't sure how to react or what to say? I imagine the moment that you're in will make a difference too - I think people often say 'how you doing? in a casual way and don't expect always to hear how someone is really doing. That's not to say people won't be receptive to listening but perhaps it's about making sure you don't catch them off guard? Just thinking out loud here.. :chin:
It's really good news to hear that things have progressed, thanks for sharing it with us. It's no wonder you're feeling affected by it all and wanting to talk and also to be able to be honest when people ask how you are.
Perhaps it's about finding a way of telling people that allows them to more easily respond if that makes sense?
Can you give us some examples of how the conversation tends to go?
*hug*
Hope the officer calls soon to let you know what's happening. Not knowing the situation must be horrible.
We're always here if talking it out would help
I know it's got nothing to do with wanting to patch it up - there's no patching up that can be done. That's like asking a victim's family to be nice to the murderer of their son/daughter. He's had 15 years to say sorry it's not like it happened yesterday.
Anyway, he's made bail until October so they have until then to go through all the evidence and then decide if they have enough to charge him with. I'm not happy with the fact that he's allowed to be out but heck I'm just hoping that he hasn't a clue where I am.
Have you got any reason to think that he might know where you are? Obviously you've moved around a lot in the last few years, so if you've had no contact with him or anyone he's close to then that's probably working massively in your favour right now.
You've done a brilliant job dealing with this missy.
I'd hope being arrested and interviewed will have shaken him, and he'd have the sense not to decide to try and find you again now.
From seeing a different chain of events from a different angle, the whole thing seems to drag on and move incredibly slowly - which probably isn't a lot of reassurance right now. I'd guess the challenge for you for now, is to try and put a line under the event of him being arrested and get on with the life you've built for yourself now. If they've said bail until October then my guess would be that nothing will happen until at least then, if not longer.
On the alarm front, having a marker will have basically the same effect - yes you'll have to phone rather than push a button but beyond that the two will get you the same response.
Any plans for the weekend?
Sorry to hear that the police didn?t follow through with putting a CAD marker on your number. Do you know why they didn?t do this?
It must be really hard to carry on with this process when you are feeling in the dark about everything and unsupported by the police. It?s quite natural to feel that you just want to end it all.
However, I hope you can take some inspiration from the quote in your signature ? I hope that the feeling at the end of this process outweighs the struggle and pain you are feeling now.
What did the police say when you contacted them?
Really don't know what to do now tbh...still got to wait until January to actually find out
It must be really tough for things to still be so uncertain after all this time. Not to mention scary and frustrating I imagine?
I can't really think of anything else to suggest at this point as it seems that there's not much more you can do for now.
Do remember that we're still always here if you feel like talking about it, regardless of any developments (or lack of)
I am aware that I'm feeling like the only way I will be vindicated is if he is convicted. But I need to be very aware that the chances of that happening right now I'm not hugely high. We don't know if it will even get past the CPS. But I don't know what I can do if he doesn't go down, I really need to find some closure here. Any ideas how I can go about that?
I'm struggling but everyone seems like they've got bigger fish to fry.
I just wished that Mr Riot was able to be there a little more than he can be right now...