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If you were presented with this book: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000FC1PRKpc_redir=1414049893&robot_redir=1
My lovely MrRiot isn't bad in bed by any means, but a large part of the problem is that he doesn't try that often or put that much effort into it. My pleasure in the sack has taken a huge back seat an I feel for my birthday this should be my present to him. But I realise it could be an ego basher.
What's the general consensus on it?
My lovely MrRiot isn't bad in bed by any means, but a large part of the problem is that he doesn't try that often or put that much effort into it. My pleasure in the sack has taken a huge back seat an I feel for my birthday this should be my present to him. But I realise it could be an ego basher.
What's the general consensus on it?
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I think it's a bad idea. I mean have you even had a chat about what you would like to be different? If you've never had a conversation then how is he meant to know? And some book won't tell him what you like. I really believe that honest and frequent conversation about sex is the best way to have a good sex life.
I once bought an ex a book on positions, but I think that was different as it was something we had already discussed... We both wanted to branch out and stop the awkward googling beforehand
Me personally. If I saw other dudes checking out my girl that would make me competitive and id try harder to please her. Especially in the bedroom. Remind him of what he's got. Next time your out wear something sexy and just bat your eye at another dude just enough to get him to check you out in front of your bf. Make him remember what he has.
We have had this conversation every time he doesn't want to have sex/every time he wants to have sex but doesn't have much time (so much so I have banned sex without foreplay) since then we haven't had sex. We are often pushed for time or are looking after his son so don't have many opportunities but I have spoken to him about it and he blames it on being tired/stressed etc which is why he wants to do quick, but I've told him he may as well take a wank for all the enjoyment I get from a very quick before work thing. Tbh his libido has taken a tumble but I can't remember the last time he actually put effort into sex. I guess this book would me pushing the point of him putting more effort because he used to and it was great but now he's too tired or stressed.
Xxshyguyxx - he really wouldn't appreciate that, a lot of his previous gfs have cheated on him and I'm not about to do anything that would cause him to think I would
How's MrRiot about talking sex? The "I really loved it when you did that, could we do that again this weekend?" route can be a good one, as can "I've been fantasising about us doing things, I'd really love to try this with you". They both make it personal and complimentary to him.
He's not very good at talking dirty at all. I might keep trying I think he's just a little shy when it comes to it