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he has lost feelings
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my boyfriend is really depressed and really stressed lately, he has a tough home life works full time and attends college to become an engineer. I love him with all my heart but the problem is that he has told me is starting to lose feelings for me yet he doesnt want to break up. I dont know what to do at his point. please help
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In conclusion: A relationship can (and sooner or later will) become stale. Sometimes it is just because of temporary stress, but often it needs a bit of work. If you do not invest some effort into your relationship, do not expect for things to get magically better.
Also if he is truly depressed and not just a bit down, he might want to get help for that. Depression is just a huge downer on relationship bliss.
It certainly sounds like your boyfriend has got a lot on his plate at the moment and you?re dealing with the effects of this.
You mention your boyfriend is feeling depressed and stressed, have you tried talking to him about how he feels about his workload and whether there are any coping strategies you may be able to come up with together? You might find this article on how to manage stress from The Site helpful as it lists some different ideas.
If your boyfriend has been feeling down for a while, it may be worth seeing if he would consider going to his GP to have a chat about how he is feeling and whether there is any support and advice they could give him. An expert from SANE, a mental health charity, has also written about feeling down and signposts some of the support that?s available which you may also find helpful.
Do you think there?s any way you and your boyfriend could make some time to spend together? It doesn?t have to be a lot but maybe just checking in with each other and making sure you?re still having the chance to have some fun? Following Strubble S? post, you might be interested in this article from The Site on different date ideas, it sounds like it might be difficult to find the time, but hopefully if you do, it?ll give you both the chance to remember why you?re together in the first place.
Look after yourself and let us know how you get on.
Emily