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Lets talk about sex, baby

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hello everyone! :wave:

A discussion was started about sex education the other day: http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/171749-What-should-you-learn-in-sex-education, and it made me think more about this topic.

You often hear about parents sitting their children down to give them the 'birds and bees' talk, which can be a very cringe-worthy moment for most people! :eek:

But these days TV, movies, social media and friends play a huge role in how we find out about sex and the ins and outs of it.

It got me thinking, do you think it's our parents that give us the most information about sex, or do we get it elsewhere? Which is the best source of information these days? :confused:

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can honestly say I didn't get any information from my parents about sex (thankfully). It was something I learnt about through school and the media - for me school was the best source I think. At least for the important things.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My sister and I are very close and I got/still get most information from her. I wouldn't say information because I know a lot but she sort of points out other.. points? I can't explain but I'm sure you know what I mean.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi!

    I haven't learned about any type of sex or stuff from my parents. I've learned a lot through social media and my friends at school relating to all words I accidentally say in the wrong way to something sexual.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I sort of learned from my parents. They were good at pointing me and my sister towards books and stuff which explained it. It probably explained it better than they could.

    With Sodbaby I'm still at the stage when I'll answer her questions when she asks, rather than having the scary talk, but then she IS only four. I imagine her mother will have more of the conversation than I will.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Aka you desperately hope :p

    I don't have much experience of it, but I'd have always thought that dealing with questions from small children is a lot more straight forward than older ones - if for no other reason than there's pretty much guaranteed to only be a maximum of one embarrassed person rather than t wo.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My parents told me nothing about it. I learnt all the details from the encyclopedia and a book that someone accidentally gave me when I was five or so. Thought that vagina was pronounced 'vaggeena' for a long time.
  • SkiveSkive Posts: 15,282 Skive's The Limit
    My mother bought me a kids biology book. Explained things in a kid friendly way. Was about 6 I think
    Learnt a little bit more from porn mags in the playground.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I faintly remember we had a kid friendly book that showed naked people (drawn as comics, not realistically), and explained the functionality of genitalia, where and how babies come from (not just "when two people love each other magic happens", but insemination, fusion of the egg and the sperm etc.). My parents never gave me "the talk" officially. I also think we had some kind of sex ed already in elementary school, but I could be wrong.

    In high school we had a day where they invited people from outside of school who held lessons. We all sat in a circle of chairs (instead of usually behind desks) and just got the whole in and out of it. That's basically where the basics and intermediate knowledge comes from. At that point a lot of "what if a woman needs to pee during sex, what happens?" kind of questions popped up.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And the book, When mummy laid an egg.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And the book, When mummy laid an egg.

    Yes, been reading that with my little nieces, they're obsessed with it atm.
  • Starry nightStarry night Posts: 674 Incredible Poster
    I found a book in the school library, it was based on a series about the worries of this one girl, there was one for school, one for friends etc, and there was one in which there was an index of sexual terms and slang which taught me the useful stuff about sex, in a non-cringe worthy way. The real basic stuff I found out from a friend in school.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Friends seem to be a popular source when it comes to sex ed!

    Starry night - that's a great point, slang and terms for sexual activity seem to change all the time with new words being invented! Are there any that you've heard of that you didn't know of before?

    I know people who had different names for parts of the body too, rather than using the words 'vagina' and 'penis', such as 'floof' and 'min'! :D

    Has anyone come across any other names that are used for the body when talking about sex?
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