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When your boyfriend/girlfriend goes away without you ...
Danny!
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It's the summer, and it's sunny!
Summer holidays or weekends can mean going on holiday, going to a festival, or staying with friends out of town. Sometimes we do these things with partners, other times it's nice to get some time with just friends.
Going away in the summer can be a really fun and special part of the year, and might well involve partying, hanging out in the sun, and sharing fun but also meaningful times with people. This can bring up various difficult feelings when it's your boyfriend or girlfriend going away without you, especially if you're left at home not doing anything special.
How do you feel about your partner going away without you? Have you had good or bad experiences in the past?
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That does sound like a really healthy balance
Have you been worried about your girlfriend holidaying without you (or vice versa), or were you both relaxed?
That's reasonably easy to manage though if you talk about it first, and have a rough outline- what that maybe will vary between couples and scenarios from talking every morning or night, to one text in the middle of the week to say still alive.
From my own experience, spending time with a partner is great but having time to yourself and with your friends is also very important to do. Do you find that when you do speak to him in the morning and evening it feels that extra bit special because you have lots to catch up on from your day?
I think this is a great place to be yourself
We all have difficult feelings sometimes, and they can relate to very different situations. I think the important thing in a relationship is how we deal with those feelings - by ourselves and as a couple. If you're able to explain to your boyfriend why you feel upset, and that it's not his fault but you would appreciate his support, then there's no reason for it to do any harm to your relationship.
It sounds like you found a way of coping that works for you. Come back here though if you find yourself upset again though, if you can work your way forward through these things, you might find that they're at least a bit easier the next time
That sounds like it put you in a really difficult situation, what did you do?
I'd told him we couldn't have a relationship for an unrelated reason. But I really unhappy that he'd assumed he was coming with me and expected me to pay for him.