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Heyy..
Really unsure if this is the right place to put this, if not feel free to shift it to the correct area.
Pretty much, there's been quite a few problems at work... And I don't really know what to do. This girl Ciara, she hates me guts, has done from the day and hour I walked in. Both me and Ciara went to the same secondary school and she's just two years older than me. At the start I ignored the way she was acting towards me. But this summer it's became more obvious (Ciara is only working with us during the Summer and Easter times due to uni), the things she's been saying has been getting worse, she's told me to kill myself, drop dead, she's hit me, punched me, threw boiling water at me, and just been down right horrible.
During uni times when Ciara is not there I love being in work, the customers have even noticed a change in how I act when she's there. believe it or not I am quite a talkative person in work, but now she's back I'm just silent, I'm to scared to speak incase she hurts me again.
I have said to my line manager about it, but he said I was just seeing things, after she punched me in the face another member of staff reported it to my line manager and that was the end of it. Pretty much I'm scared to even go into work now, I've got a 9 hour shift with her tomorrow, then a 6 hour shift with her on Sunday. I'm scared that it's going to get worse, my line manager wont be with us tomorrow so it will just be me her and another member off staff who hates me for different reasons.
Another thing is, I asked my line manager for two day's off next month, due to traveling for an interview in Scotland, before going to my line manager I checked the book to see if anyone had the two day's that I needed booed off, no one had it off, so I asked if it was possible if I could have it. I was refused the two day's off, yet someone after me was given two weeks off to go on holiday, I had explained to my line manager that it was for an interview as part of my collage course and it would only be two days. He said that if I wanted any holiday days off I had to wait till September then take it. Yet other people are allowed days off during the summer? I just don't get it.
Anyway... Sorry for posting I just don't know what to do anymore, Sorry once again.
Really unsure if this is the right place to put this, if not feel free to shift it to the correct area.
Pretty much, there's been quite a few problems at work... And I don't really know what to do. This girl Ciara, she hates me guts, has done from the day and hour I walked in. Both me and Ciara went to the same secondary school and she's just two years older than me. At the start I ignored the way she was acting towards me. But this summer it's became more obvious (Ciara is only working with us during the Summer and Easter times due to uni), the things she's been saying has been getting worse, she's told me to kill myself, drop dead, she's hit me, punched me, threw boiling water at me, and just been down right horrible.
During uni times when Ciara is not there I love being in work, the customers have even noticed a change in how I act when she's there. believe it or not I am quite a talkative person in work, but now she's back I'm just silent, I'm to scared to speak incase she hurts me again.
I have said to my line manager about it, but he said I was just seeing things, after she punched me in the face another member of staff reported it to my line manager and that was the end of it. Pretty much I'm scared to even go into work now, I've got a 9 hour shift with her tomorrow, then a 6 hour shift with her on Sunday. I'm scared that it's going to get worse, my line manager wont be with us tomorrow so it will just be me her and another member off staff who hates me for different reasons.
Another thing is, I asked my line manager for two day's off next month, due to traveling for an interview in Scotland, before going to my line manager I checked the book to see if anyone had the two day's that I needed booed off, no one had it off, so I asked if it was possible if I could have it. I was refused the two day's off, yet someone after me was given two weeks off to go on holiday, I had explained to my line manager that it was for an interview as part of my collage course and it would only be two days. He said that if I wanted any holiday days off I had to wait till September then take it. Yet other people are allowed days off during the summer? I just don't get it.
Anyway... Sorry for posting I just don't know what to do anymore, Sorry once again.
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Maybe the Citizen's Advice Bureau could help. It isn't fair on you and you shouldn't be treated like this especially when your manager thinks you're lying.
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Big hugs *hug* I am so sorry you are having to go through this!
Don't apologise we are all hear to listen and help, I think everyone is a bit shocked at how you are being treated. As the others have said it really isn't fair or safe for you to have to deal with this when at work.
You said you have tried to talk to your line manager, I am sorry they haven't been supportive or helpful. Is there anyone else you can speak to? Maybe their manager/ the owner? If you think you would struggle to explain it to them write it down and hand it to them. The place you work may have an anti bullying policy, many organisations take a zero tolerance stance on bullying so check to see if any of this is mentioned in your contract or policies.
There is lot's of advice here about being bullied at work.
I hope this helps a little, let us know how you are getting on - we are here to listen.
I have to apologise, for getting in the way and bothering people. I've spoken to the owners too, but they just had the same reaction as my line manager. When I was offered the job, there was no contract or policies or anything. If I could I would just leave hand my notice in, but it's not that simple,as I said I've got a family that I need to put first.
What's happening at work is something that I've experienced my full life, I don't know why I thought that work would be any different. The girl will be gone soon back to uni untill Easter so I won't have to see her till then.
There a contract u signed before u started work? Meaning did the job say anything about the terms and conditions in the contract, if so it's best to trace that up with ur line manager and as for the bullying well I suppose u have tried asking everyone to help u but no luck so the only conclusions is to either look for other work in the mean time where u will get paid or u could ring up the organisation called Beat Bullying where they will help u and support u on what he going through and maybe give u advice on what to do. Have u suffered any injuries since being at work like the girl physically abusing u? If so it's maybe worth taking legal action and go to court and sort it from there.
They can look at both cases and see wether she's able to return back to work or not and if so give u money for compensation towards ur injury. I think it maybe either for u to have it up with the court, look for other work in the mean time if u think u can carry on if possible or speak to Best Bullying helpline where there are ways in which they could help and support u. There's more information about bullying on the site. Hope that helps as I really wanna an improvement for this situation. That ok? I think u have trier everything else and nothing seems to be working. X
I never said it was ok... Did I? I have reported it to the police and they have said that there is nothing they can do to help me!
I knew I should not have posted this... Should have just kept quiet.
The police should be following it up. They wouldn't have just said they can't do anything at all on the basis that it's at work and not in the street.
Nope not in work today thankfully. When I started there I signed nothing, so no formal contract or anything.
BeatBullying- Iused to be a member before I turned 18
As it is beng done in work there is nothing they can do. It is up to my company to deal with it. If it was on the street then they could take action.
Bit it's assault so that's stupid.
Then I guess the police here are stupid then.
Yes, they clearly are.
http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/employment/equality_in_work/bullying_in_the_workplace.html
http://www.hsa.ie/eng/Workplace_Health/Bullying_at_Work/Are_you_being_Bullied
From what I've read here, you can get help and support.