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Would you stay Facebook friends with a boyfriend/girlfriend after breaking up?
Danny!
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We still had to decide whether to keep any contact with an ex before Facebook. But Facebook has made it lots easier to stay in touch and see what they’re doing - and if we want to avoid it we have to make an active decision to do so.
This can bring up various issues (although it doesn’t always):
• How do you feel when you see that your ex is having a good time (even worse with someone else!)
• Do you end up contacting your ex when you really shouldn’t?
• Is it harder to get over someone when you keep having contact with them?
I’d really like to hear about other people’s experiences and thoughts on this one. Do you stay friends with exes on Facebook. Also, did you think about the decision? What things did you consider?
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I guess it depends on what happened during the relationship, how the break up went, what happened after the break up, etc. Like maybe if the break up is a mutual decision then they could stay friends but if a break up goes bad then obviously I don't think anyone is going to even think about keeping their ex as a friend.
The three points you've made Danny are definitely why I would never think about having my ex as a friend on Facebook now.
There are other ways that they can contact you, etc. but I think Facebook is the first thing a lot of people turn to and it all depends on what you want or are hoping for.
I wondered reading through how closely those decisions about staying Facebook friends relate to decisions about staying with friends with exes in other ways. Is it as simple as you stay friends on Facebook if you stay friends in real life - or might you stay friends with an ex on Facebook but not have any further contact with them? Or unfriend them on Facebook but still have other contact (like phone, or email).
Also, I was wondering how everyone would feel if their boyfriend/girlfriend was friends with their exes on Facebook? And for those of you who do stay friends with exes, has that raised any issues with other partners?