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**helen**
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V-inspired has initiated a quiz to get people to think about what they consider to be acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship. :chin:
You can take it here: https://beta.vinspired.com/team-v-questionnaire
But what I'm really interested in is this...
Based on the list they've included - which thing do you have the least tolerance for and why?
Which thing do you think is really OK and why?
You can take it here: https://beta.vinspired.com/team-v-questionnaire
But what I'm really interested in is this...
Based on the list they've included - which thing do you have the least tolerance for and why?
Which thing do you think is really OK and why?
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I also think that to get jealous if your partner is talking to someone else, really not okay at all.
I like the hand holding one, I wouldn't say all of the time in public but a lot of the time we held hands and it was nice when we were getting on.
The texts thing I've got slightly mixed feelings on. There shouldn't be any need to read each others texts, and I wouldn't like someone doing it actively behind my back, but equally I think that there's sometimes a massive overreaction the other way. I'd have no problem with someone reading a text that came in while they had my phone, and replying to it for both of us if it was suitable. An example being the two of us had plans to meet up with a mutual friend Delilah and Tom later, Delilah texts me while I'm in the shower, partner opens message on my phone, reads it and replies to say yes we're coming and bringing the blamange. We both know each others phone PINs (even if the work policy is that's not allowed), I trust him not to go raiding behind my back, but wouldn't fuss if he was browsing in front of me.
- the reading the texts one - complete dereliction of privacy. I don't have anything to hide, but it's a trust thing.
- getting jealous when speaking to someone else at a party - mainly because I believe each person should have their own relationships with others so if the other person with me was just being jealous I would be wondering why they weren't trying to meet others.
- calling their ex all the time to get back together - no just no!
Most acceptable of the lot (but still not a 5) was not meeting the other person's family... maybe because I've been dodging the missus meeting my family for far too long....
The guys at vinspired are running a twitter Q&A about healthy relationships this Saturday (15th Feb) from 5-6pm. If you're up for getting involved then the hashtag to follow is #LoveIs
They'll also be sharing the result of this survey
Physically not want to, ever?
I think it's okay to put it off for a while, but not ever wanting to meet your partners family, that's not acceptable.
Two months! You're a bit keen.
At two months I'm usually still trying* to convince them I'm awesome enough to keep around.
*and failing
Not sure it does but I hope you catch my drift!