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My Granddad has cancer
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My granddad has Cancer, and he's terminal. I don't know much about it. Just heard from a friend he's "Terminal". He was quite absent during my childhood, there was always tension between him and the rest of my none-existent family, because of the fact He amongst other members of my Family are an alcoholic, and something happened (Which I'm unaware of what) Between my mum and my granddad and my uncle, to the extreme my Uncle hasn't seen his dad since he was my age, and he's now in his late 40's.
So I never got to see much of him when I was little, and then he moved to Thailand to marry some woman and adopt a child, or something. Then they split up and he married someone else, He runs a quite big cleaning company in hull which means he has a fair bit of money, and he's always played his grandchildren of against each other. Like, for christmas he might get my brothers (I have 6) something and miss out me and my sisters(I also have 6). Or buy me something and nobody else. He's always done this because he likes causing arguments.
But now because of the constant drinking and constant being drunk every night, he's developed Cancer, and the doctors can't do anything about it, He's spent weeks in hospital and now they've told him that he's comfortable, I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel about this, Its bringing back unwanted memories of my Dad, because my dads currently loosing his battle with cancer, and I don't see my dad anymore, and I don't know what stage my Granddad or my farther are at. I feel really bad though at the fact he's going to die, Because I don't really have a family anyways, None of my Family members speak to me, and now I won't have the chance to ever again after he's gone.
I don't know what to say really, This has just turned into a ranty thread..
My friend (who told me) has informed me my auntie put this status up.
"Another update for the ppl I ain't text! My dad got rushed back in the other night after a few hours of been home,now he's got a chest infection n pneumonia he's not in a good way at all so can't really say much were takin each day as it comes..soon as he asks for his head shave again that's him picking back up..fank u for your caring texts they mean alot xx"
So I never got to see much of him when I was little, and then he moved to Thailand to marry some woman and adopt a child, or something. Then they split up and he married someone else, He runs a quite big cleaning company in hull which means he has a fair bit of money, and he's always played his grandchildren of against each other. Like, for christmas he might get my brothers (I have 6) something and miss out me and my sisters(I also have 6). Or buy me something and nobody else. He's always done this because he likes causing arguments.
But now because of the constant drinking and constant being drunk every night, he's developed Cancer, and the doctors can't do anything about it, He's spent weeks in hospital and now they've told him that he's comfortable, I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel about this, Its bringing back unwanted memories of my Dad, because my dads currently loosing his battle with cancer, and I don't see my dad anymore, and I don't know what stage my Granddad or my farther are at. I feel really bad though at the fact he's going to die, Because I don't really have a family anyways, None of my Family members speak to me, and now I won't have the chance to ever again after he's gone.
I don't know what to say really, This has just turned into a ranty thread..
My friend (who told me) has informed me my auntie put this status up.
"Another update for the ppl I ain't text! My dad got rushed back in the other night after a few hours of been home,now he's got a chest infection n pneumonia he's not in a good way at all so can't really say much were takin each day as it comes..soon as he asks for his head shave again that's him picking back up..fank u for your caring texts they mean alot xx"
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It's not because you aren't close to your family or that he seemed mean at times, that this isn't hard for you. And of course you feel sad that he's could pass away - it will be a challenge to deal with even if he hasn't been very much part of your life.
You say your friend told you about this. Are you able to talk to them, or other close friends about how you feel about your grandad and your dad going through cancer? I wonder if it's helped just to be able to have a bit of a rant here and get some of this off your chest?
Have a look at our basic article on cancer, as well as the Macmillan website that has a cancer support helpline.
Let us know how you get on *hug*
How much do you need?
He was discharged from hospital about a month back, after he recovered enough to spend his 'final months at home' Christmas day he was re-admitted back to hospital, and they've said he might not make it through the week...its 'touch and go' He's on an IV drip and something else...
I'm so sorry to hear this. Christmas Day is a really tough time to get news like that. How are you feeling? Apart from very very sad, of course?
From earlier posts on this thread it sounds like your Granddad, and your relationship with him and the rest of your family, can provoke a lot of feelings in you. How are you finding that today? Are you able to see him? Or talk to anyone about what's going on?
Even though you've known he's been ill for quite some time, having something like this develop can still be a massive shock and provoke lots of confusing emotions. Allow yourself some time to adjust to the news and to feel and experience whatever it is you're feeling. There's no right or wrong way to deal with something like this - just do what's best for you.
We're all here for you and are sending you virtual hugs and love at this difficult time. Please do write here if you want to get anything out. And, in the meantime, you're in our thoughts.
Sending you big hugs *hug*
Holly
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That be fab If he can go home
Keep us posted
I don't know what to say em, I'm so sorry to hear this. I just wanted tooffer you hugs and remind you we care *hug*