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Having an abortion :(
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Ive found out I'm pregnant by a guy I don't really want as a dad for my child. I'm having a hard time in life and don't feel a baby is right time but am scared stiff bout the abortion I'm about 4 wks
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What about the abortion are you most scared of if you don't mind me asking?
The pain how I'll cope mentally
You need to ask yourself is an abortion definitely what you want? Never mind the father, do you want this baby?
You say you don't feel like it's the right time to have a baby but believe me, you'll be a lot worse if you regret your decision.
http://www.thesite.org/sex-and-relationships/abortion/im-pregnant-what-now-4468.html
http://www.thesite.org/sex-and-relationships/abortion/dealing-with-an-abortion-4471.html
This one is about someone who regrets having an abortion:
http://www.thesite.org/community/reallife/truestories/whyiregretmyabortion
I know this may not help you but I just want to make sure you feel you are making the right decision, and that you won't regret anything in the future. This is a very big decision for you to make so try not to rush.
Hiya yep this is a super hard choice to make but just not sure if im ready... I'm not very financially stable ive had things go in my life this yr that I realiy haven't coped with well I have my reasons
Valid fears.
As an 18 year old I didn't use protection one time with my girl. She couldn't face the shame from her community and/or life we would have to live. I went with her every appointment, government office, ah man - even to the procedure. We donated the stem cells to a lab for research purposes after they had us sign forms that included a name and boxes to check allowing our cells to be used in a lab. Very heartbreaking, especially when I see my friends who have children the same age. I don't think aby of those women stayed with their baby-fathers for more than 4-5 years.
I always wonder how things would have been if my girl at the time had been convinced to keep the baby. It will be 14 years in January, I have zero kids.
Still a big old bummer.
I'm going to drs tuesday
I assume you're certain about the pregnancy?
This.
It sounds like you think you have made your decision but I still think you need to really talk through all of your options with a professional. Talk honestly and think about all of your feelings.
:yes: They'll be able to give you more time and attention, too, which you need when you're vulnerable.
after the abortion, it was difficult - i wont lie.
i aint with the guy now, - phew! and i am now in uni. its takes time but today i know i did the right thing - i thought about what the babys life would have been like? with a shit dad, a young mum and no finances.
if you need, inbox me xx