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Having a parent with depression.
*BananaMonkey*
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Hey guys.
Sorry if this thread doesnt make much sense. I think it could end up like a ramble. Sorry.
My mum has depression and has done for years. I am struggling at the minute. We dont really have a relationship and I find it hard to know what mood she is gonna be in every day. I dread coming home from work worried about how she is going to be.
I know my mum loves me and I love her. I just wish I had a relationship with her.
I have mood swings and suffer from bad thoughts on a daily basis, since refusing cbt and stopping my meds support has been through thesite.org which does help. I just wish I could talk to my mum about how I am feeling, she doesnt think anything is wrong with me. I feel so isolated and just want a relationship with her.
I know she has alot to deal with and I feel guilty for even typing this post cos it is making me out to be heartless cos of how much my mum is dealing with.
I guess I am just looking for some advice and if anyone else could relate to me, I feel pretty alone at the minute in feeling like this.
Sorry for the ramble.
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Sorry if this thread doesnt make much sense. I think it could end up like a ramble. Sorry.
My mum has depression and has done for years. I am struggling at the minute. We dont really have a relationship and I find it hard to know what mood she is gonna be in every day. I dread coming home from work worried about how she is going to be.
I know my mum loves me and I love her. I just wish I had a relationship with her.
I have mood swings and suffer from bad thoughts on a daily basis, since refusing cbt and stopping my meds support has been through thesite.org which does help. I just wish I could talk to my mum about how I am feeling, she doesnt think anything is wrong with me. I feel so isolated and just want a relationship with her.
I know she has alot to deal with and I feel guilty for even typing this post cos it is making me out to be heartless cos of how much my mum is dealing with.
I guess I am just looking for some advice and if anyone else could relate to me, I feel pretty alone at the minute in feeling like this.
Sorry for the ramble.
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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Then again not sharing stuff is a family trait
It is very very hard to get total disclosure from someone with mental illness. Just let her know you are there for her.
Is she getting professional help?
Definitely don't feel guilty about having issues of your own btw.
Yeah she is on medication and has had counseling, for years.
I shouldn't even be like this, feeling like this when I know how much she has to deal with. Wish I could stop feeling guilty
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
I know how you feel, knowing what my mum has gone through my "problems" seem pretty trivial in comparison so i probably wouldn't talk to her about them.
But you are your own person with your own problems. That's perfectly ok....there might always be someone worse off than us but that doesn't make our problems unimportant.
Also here if you fancy a talk at any point.
Thankyou for the offer of a chat
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Just thought I'd check in to see how you're doing today. How was the rest of your weekend? Have you spoken to your mum again?
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
It's nice to have the weekend to look forward to. Do you have any specific plans with your friend?
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
The weekend does sound fun!
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Sorry to hear things are bad at the moment
It must be hard for her to have stopped counselling. Is there any way she can continue?
Have you been able to speak to your mum about how you feel? You say she doesn't think anything is wrong with you so perhaps opening up to her when you feel the time is right could help.
There is no reason why you should feel guilty, seems like you are trying very hard to be there for her. Its positive that she's getting help, and its also important for you to focus on yourself sometimes too. There is nothing selfish about that *hug*
Have a look at our article that could help on supporting someone with mental health
There is also a very good Step finder article on Building a support network around depression and self harm.
I will have a look at those articles, they could help me.
I am just taking everything day by day at the minute, today I have felt okay, and feel quite positive, but I never know when that will all change. But while I am feeling like this I am happy. I just think talking to my mum right now how she feels will not benefit either of us. Things should be okay soon, I hope
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
It sounds like you had a difficult evening. How are things today?
From what you said, it seems like your mum was having a bad day yesterday. You're certainly not a horrible person - you clearly care a lot about her even if she struggles to see that.
Have you managed to have a look at the articles that christele linked to? Are they helpful?
I hope today's better. Keep us updated
JPick
Erm not had chance yet. I have spent most of the time either at work or in my room upset.
I just feel horrible.
Thank you for the reply
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Sent from my GT-I8190 using Tapatalk 2
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Hopefully things will continue to improve with open communication.
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Supporting someone with depression (or other mental health condition) when you too are struggling is tough and can put a strain on any relationship. It's very easy to feel pushed away or hurt because if their actions, when all you want to do is help, but try to remember that it isn't you
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "