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Is this friendship worth it?
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I've got a friend who I know since I was knee high. We used to do everything together. I'd always go to her house and would do the same. We had an extra special sort of bond because her birthday is a day before mine. Then I left school in year 3. I met new people made friends we kept in touch. As we got older she hardly kept in touch even though she knew where I lived and I had given her all my contact details. I know she had lots going on but calling me and saying ill call you back, not inviting me to her parties anymore when I made all the effort speaking to her.:crazyeyes
A few years ago she started to talk to me more, we were 18 and she still does when it suits her want to keep in touch. Making an excuse is one thing though I'm pretty sure she lies half the time. I've always gone out my way to do everything with her and still consider her as my best friend. Though I feel sometimes she can be misleading and doesn't care. I think of her most days and ok she's got stuff on and things but she always cancels out on plans we make, nowadays she ignores my texts. Replies back saying how she's having fun with other people. Stands me up.
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I'm always there for her, she's not. Every blue moon more like. I've told her how I feel she's always telling me that its not her but me. I don't get why she wants me to apologise all the time and get away with it herself. I've had gaps where I've not talked to her for months. Been happy most of the time. Then I feel a gap and I feel guilt that I haven't done good by her and go back to being friends. So does that's mean the problem lies with me? I know family comes first, her brother is getting married shes bound to be happy and i am for her to, though she hasnt invited me half of my other aquantainces have an invite. when i ask her about this she says theres no room. I am fedup of her making feeble excuses but what should i do when she doesnt listen! why let someone hang waiting for you to ask your plans or how you are when there more concerned about themselves.
I go out my way for people. I care. Idont know why she has stopped. I'm concentrating on getting back to uni and doing a course this year. Part of me says forget her, move on and part of me says. Don't ruin the 12 year old friendship. Is it really worth it?
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A few years ago she started to talk to me more, we were 18 and she still does when it suits her want to keep in touch. Making an excuse is one thing though I'm pretty sure she lies half the time. I've always gone out my way to do everything with her and still consider her as my best friend. Though I feel sometimes she can be misleading and doesn't care. I think of her most days and ok she's got stuff on and things but she always cancels out on plans we make, nowadays she ignores my texts. Replies back saying how she's having fun with other people. Stands me up.
:nervous:I'm always there for her, she's not. Every blue moon more like. I've told her how I feel she's always telling me that its not her but me. I don't get why she wants me to apologise all the time and get away with it herself. I've had gaps where I've not talked to her for months. Been happy most of the time. Then I feel a gap and I feel guilt that I haven't done good by her and go back to being friends. So does that's mean the problem lies with me? I know family comes first, her brother is getting married shes bound to be happy and i am for her to, though she hasnt invited me half of my other aquantainces have an invite. when i ask her about this she says theres no room. I am fedup of her making feeble excuses but what should i do when she doesnt listen! why let someone hang waiting for you to ask your plans or how you are when there more concerned about themselves.
I go out my way for people. I care. Idont know why she has stopped. I'm concentrating on getting back to uni and doing a course this year. Part of me says forget her, move on and part of me says. Don't ruin the 12 year old friendship. Is it really worth it?
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Yeah, pretty much.
Most of the time all we really have in common with the people we're at school with is that we go to the same school and can talk about the same teachers. There's a certain amount of going through the same stuff at the same time. These things change quite quickly once you're not at school anymore.
I'm still thinking this through. Though I don't see the point of having a friend like that.
If you had any doubt before, just the fact that she said this shows she didn't seem worth it :no: *hug*
With each goodbye you will receive a hello. So just think about what's going to make you happy. Focus on yourself because this won't be helping your health much.
I'm always trying to help stay friends with people who I've know for a long time. It's harder at school though because they can be so horrible publicly if you annoy them.
Get a great circle of friends, focus on the future and your set:)x