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i have so many gay friends so this is something close to my heart, i just need some help on how to deal with not having a go at everyone who disagrees with it i have fallen out with family and disowned family members coz of it. anyone got any tips on how i can deal with the hate better please, i am Bisexual myself
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I wouldn't say they were idiots. Growing up in a Muslim environment, I did grow up thinking being gay was VERY wrong. It's a sin getting with someone who is the same sex as you. Also entering College, and being surrounded by many people who were openly gay, and many whom are close friends it's enlightened me that it's so spoked about in the community. I still have a whole family who think that being 'gay' is wrong. Some Muslim fundamentalists have claimed that homosexuality stems from whispers of the devil. It is not only just a sin, but a crime under the Islamic law.
Depends on how it is manifesting itself. Ignorance can be challenged with arguments and reasoning. Hatred on the other hand is something you cannot counter and those people do not deserve your time.
I think it depends on who you have around you, but you can't change peoples mind and make them accept your sexuality it has to be up to them, Sometimes it takes weeks, Sometimes months, SOmetimes it can take years and sometimes, they can never accept..
yeah but they expect me to accept their opinions but they wont accept mine thats what annoys me the most
Yea that annoys me too. I dont mind people believing whatever they want to believe but dont force it on other people. Like aid before, you just have to ignore these ignorant people, there are some you just cant get through to
People can think what they like. But from what I gathered these people are being hostile with their opinions which is upsetting the OP. But if they're not trying to cause problems then the OP should leave them be.
Yeah I see what your saying but those who are homophobics expect us to change our opinions but when we tryto change there opinions we get shouted at and everything else. I dont see why its one rule for one and one rule for another.
xx sam
that is so true emmalee.
http://www.birminghammail.co.uk/news/local-news/muslim-lesbian-couple-defy-death-4015955
As to the original question, "I think you're wrong, but I don't want to talk about it because I know at least one of us will be upset by it"
I don't know if this will help but for me coming out was something I felt I had to do. I hid my emotions and my true personality for years only showing it to close friends and trusted individuals but there came a time when I was tired of having to watch my tongue so that I didn't let it slip that I was with another man or express my feelings towards any member of the same sex. The act steadily became more of a weight on my conscious and finally I said I had enough. I told myself on the day I came out, that if you can't like me for me and accept me for who I am, you never truly loved/liked me in the first place.
Try to remember no matter what anyone else tells you, it's your life. We only get one and some of us spent too long denying ourselves to waste time dealing with others opinions and beliefs. Do what makes you happy and pardon my language but the hell with everyone else. All wounds heal but remember we can only be hurt if we let it happen. Sometimes we don't mean to allow the pain to fester it just does, and yes some wounds scar but you shouldn't dwell on bad things. Move forward and live your life the way you want.
We only get one, so why not enjoy it for what it's worth. Time is so ephemeral and it passes far quicker than any of us realize. If your family rejects who you are, show them that you haven't changed and you can be just as happy as they are. Sometimes even the people we look up to and hold dearest can be as ignorant as we are at times. Acceptance usually isn't an instantaneous thing, think how long it took you to realize yourself. Patience and time may be the answer as well. If not don't dwell on it and move forward otherwise you'll stagnate and linger in the sadness.