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Another sexuality crisis!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Basically, I started questioning my sexuality when I was twelve (which my mum says is normal), and then came out as bisexual when I was almost fourteen. Now I'm nearing fifteen, and I'm starting to have second thoughts. I've had a decent number of boyfriends in school, and only a few girlfriends, and now I think I might be lesbian. I'm currently dating a girl and am very comfortable with our relationship so far, but now I find whenever I think of dating/kissing/having sex/a family with a man I feel rather put off. I can see myself with a woman in the future and having a family, but not with a man. So far I'd say I'm a lesbian. The only problem is I do find some men attractive but only in the face. If an actor has a scene with no shirt on I am again put off, but I can say that I like his face for whatever reason. I also prefer gay porn to straight porn, but is that because I don't watch as much straight porn? Am I a lesbian after all? It's really stressing me out!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It shouldn't stress you out, after all you are what you are and you shouldn't feel compelled to have to fit in with what anyone else thinks of you. I've often thought that sexuality could be considered more of a sliding scale, where people don't necessarily have to be 100% straight, 100% gay or 50/50. Infact I think its quite wrong to even apply percentages to things.

    You might find some useful points in this article as well
    http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/sexuality/exploration/exploringyoursexuality
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    G-Raffe wrote: »
    you are what you are and you shouldn't feel compelled to have to fit in with what anyone else thinks of you.

    people don't necessarily have to be 100% straight, 100% gay or 50/50. Infact I think its quite wrong to even apply percentages to things.

    :yes: This ^^
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why put a label on it?

    There's nothing wrong with not being sure or changing your mind. You might change your mind later on, you might not. Just do what feels right.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey DeadSummer, welcome to TheSite :wave:

    As others have said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with changing your mind, feelings are never set in stone. Do you know what it is that is stressing you out the most?

    I also wanted to let you know that we recently did a live expert chat about sexuality and there was some really brilliant advice from our expert, in particular:
    "It can be helpful to think of sexuality more like a spectrum, rather than fitting into categories. It's also something that can change over time."

    There was also a question about what types of porn people watch too, you can read the full chat here:http://www.thesite.org/community/thesocial/chat/chatarchive/exploringsexuality

    I hope you find it useful :)
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