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I couldn't decide on which thread this should be posted in.
April is a relatively hard month for me and has been for a number of years now, but this year it's even harder. Its Megan's 19th birthday on the 24th and then on the 30th its a year since we lost her. I miss her terribly and Ella & Alice. I'm not sure how I'm going to cope when it comes to then.
In the past things haven't gone to well, I've felt really low and often suicidal felt like I Needed to be with her and needed her ect. So I'm scared that when it comes to her birthday/anniversary i'm going to be that way again. I just don't know what to do. I need her so badly .
Can't stop crying..
April is a relatively hard month for me and has been for a number of years now, but this year it's even harder. Its Megan's 19th birthday on the 24th and then on the 30th its a year since we lost her. I miss her terribly and Ella & Alice. I'm not sure how I'm going to cope when it comes to then.
In the past things haven't gone to well, I've felt really low and often suicidal felt like I Needed to be with her and needed her ect. So I'm scared that when it comes to her birthday/anniversary i'm going to be that way again. I just don't know what to do. I need her so badly .
Can't stop crying..
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There's no shame in feeling sad or crying, in some ways it's better than keeping the emotion locked in, but it depends on the person...I cry at all the little things but less so at the big things and it always shocks me when my eyes start leaking.
I don't know how feasible it would be for you, but releasing lanterns really helped me. Also having ideas or options of things to do if you need some quiet time or distraction, whether it's something simple like watching a film or writing a letter to them. I don't know Megan, Alice or Ella so I can't make assumptions but from meeting you and talking to you away from the boards, you're intelligent, caring and funny. You've made some really positive choices for yourself and have ideas about what you'd like to do as well as being involved in volunteering at the moment. You've achieved a lot in difficult circumstances and that is something to hold on to.
cake for you and George :birthday:
hope your both okay x
Just try and stay strong throughout the days, and make sure who ever is around you knows it is her birthday and the anniversary of her death so they can support you if you're feeling down
I know I'm not going to cope. Fact...
http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/
My mother volunteers for them
I would say that it may be the fear of the day, being worse than the actual day.
It might be helpful to plan that day as a tribute day, and arrange to spend a lot of time thinking and of course crying where you need to.
Take a solitary day, or only close friends and avoid any unnecessary engagements or appointments.
go somewhere special or sacred to you, or maybe to you both. Somewhere where you can light a candle and keep it burning all day.
Can i paypal you the money? Do you have an account?
Suzy I just want to say that you are a wonderful human being.
That is all.
:yes: So much love for you Suzy.
Emmalee, I really hope the days aren't too hard for you. Please stay strong.
This
Love you Emmy, always here if you need me xx