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my wits end
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i seriously need some guidance right now, anyone to talk to. to vent to rage. i feel like im going to snap and its all because of this dysfunctional relationship, and i cant seem to let go. i need someone right now.. i really really need someone..
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The best thing you can do right here on TheSite is let it all out...as much detail as you feel comfortable with. A problem shared is a problem halved :yes:
I ask because you say you're 17, and you have an awful lot of life ahead of you yet. I do tend to get saddened when I see people getting so worked up over relationships at a young age. All I would suggest, is that whether being in a relationship or not, be happy with yourself and try to enjoy your life.
I agree. I'm not saying 17 is too young to feel love. But it's too young to get wound up about being in a relationship that's the last one. I'm 27 now and I think I've probably found it, but if I'm wrong (again) then I've still got time, even now.
It's hard, but perhaps you could say to her parents "I'm breaking up with your daughter, we're not happy together, but she's said these things and I want someone to look after her". Because it's her parents job, not yours to take care of her.
If you didn't cause the pain, you don't need to feel guilty for it being there.
You're only 17, you're not even an adult yet, you're not trained, you're not qualified and you shouldn't be trying to deal with these issues alone. Have you thought about getting some help for yourself?
If your friend who killed themselves had got some serious professional help (and maybe they did), but if they'd done that, instead of killing themselves I don't think you'd call them weak.
Admitting you need help is a major act of bravery, and a lot of people can't face doing it because of what people would say.
Sorry to hear that you feel sometimes there’s no time for your troubles. You said "i wish i could push it away like you tell me to. i keep telling myself its what i have to do, but i have no one to support me"
Here at TheSite.org there is always time to listen and be heard, I’m glad that you’ve found us and have been able to talk about what’s happening in your relationship.
It can be hard to admit when we need help, especially when it seems that other people in our lives have bigger things going on. However we can only begin to help other people when we are at our best so it’s a great step that you’ve realised you’d like some help coping.
Fiend makes a good point:
As a close friend and partner, it can feel like our own responsibility to help those close to us but please remember that there's only so much you can do to help someone before your own wellbeing is compromised. And with your own wellbeing being compromised you may not be able to offer the help you'd like in the best way possible.
Do you have any close family or friends you’d feel comfortable talking to about what’s happening at the moment and how you feel? As **Helen** said, talking about a problem can help and it may help you to know that those close to you are aware of the things that are concerning you.
It’s not clear whether you’re based in the UK or outside? If you could let us know we’ll be able to pass on some helpful places to go that could support you further.
Take care,
Laura