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Ask the expert: Sexuality - post your questions this week!

**helen****helen** Mod malarkistPosts: 9,235 Boards Champion
UPDATE:

This chat has now taken place but Lucy is taking questions in this thread for the rest of the week, feel free to post a question below!


Are you looking for some friendly advice on lesbian and gay issues and experience?

Then join the chat room next Tuesday 5th March 7-8pm to ask questions and share your own tips and thoughts.

What can I ask?

Questions about anything in relation to sexuality! You might be thinking about coming out, trying to understand your feelings or thoughts about relationships. You may have questions about your sexual experiences or you may even have a question about legal rights. You can also come along to ask questions on behalf of a friend. :thumb:

We'll be joined by Lucy Rolfe from the Lesbian and Gay Foundation.

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About Lucy...
Lucy has worked as Wellbeing Manager at The Lesbian and Gay Foundation for almost three years and has a background in supporting who are experiencing common mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. Within the LGF, Lucy oversees the counselling service, befriending service, support and social groups and support for young people. She is also a trained counsellor and has volunteered for a charity support young people.

How does it work?
If you've not been to an expert chat before, they work a bit differently. Your questions and comments will be approved before they appear in the chat room so that Lucy can answer questions one person at a time. Jo and I will be there to explain things on the night and approve all your comments

When the chat is open you'll be able to enter from the normal page: http://www.thesite.org/community/thesocial/chat

If you have a question but can't make the chat then you can post it here or PM me and we'll ask it on your behalf. The transcript from the chat will be published a few days after the event.

Hope to see lots of you there!

P.S Thanks to TheSite Leaders Emmalee and MeganM for suggestion we run this session. Got an idea for an expert session? Feel free to PM Jo7 :)

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As the only gay in the village I'll be in chat, presuming it's still cool re:chatmods and expert chats.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fiend_85 wrote: »
    As the only gay in the village I'll be in chat, presuming it's still cool re:chatmods and expert chats.

    You are so soooo not the only gay in the village.





    What about Rubberskin?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is tonight :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Which mod will be there
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    **Helen** will be moderating the chat tonight :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Helennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn yayayayayyaayayyaayayyayaa :D

    Thanks Jo ur a star :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What about the Bs and Ts? Are we invited too?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    piccolo wrote: »
    You are so soooo not the only gay in the village.





    What about Rubberskin?

    You can have more cake, make sure she doesn't get any :grump:

    :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Miss_Riot wrote: »
    What about the Bs and Ts? Are we invited too?

    Only if you bring the Ls. BLTs :D
  • **helen****helen** Mod malarkist Posts: 9,235 Boards Champion
    Miss_Riot wrote: »
    What about the Bs and Ts? Are we invited too?

    Of course :)
  • **helen****helen** Mod malarkist Posts: 9,235 Boards Champion
    We're open now guys :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks to everyone that came along to the chat tonight :)

    If you have a question for Lucy that you didn't get around to asking she'll be dropping into this thread for the rest of the week and will be happy to respond.

    Just reply to this thread with your question and she'll get back to you :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had one more question. I really can't make out sometimes if woman is lesbian or straight woman looking to experiment. Tbh I've seen lots of straight woman who're in relationship flirting with girls.
  • **helen****helen** Mod malarkist Posts: 9,235 Boards Champion
    Moved this so that if more people have questions they're more likely to see it :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry i cont stay last night i was with my counsellor and i cont consertract on our session :( wish i could stayed and learn about stuff :L
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry i cont stay last night i was with my counsellor and i cont consertract on our session :( wish i could stayed and learn about stuff :L

    Not to worry heather, I hope things went well with your counsellor.

    In a few days the chat will be published in the expert chat archive. I'll post the link here when it is ready and you will be able to catch up on what happened :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *simba* wrote: »
    I had one more question. I really can't make out sometimes if woman is lesbian or straight woman looking to experiment. Tbh I've seen lots of straight woman who're in relationship flirting with girls.

    Hey *simba*, thanks for your question. Lucy will be getting back to you today :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *simba* wrote: »
    I had one more question. I really can't make out sometimes if woman is lesbian or straight woman looking to experiment. Tbh I've seen lots of straight woman who're in relationship flirting with girls.

    Hi Simba,
    It can be challenging to know whether or not someone is a lesbian, bisexual or straight, bear in mind that they might not even know that yet! The best thing to do is to see if you can start a conversation with them and get to know them that way. Then, hopefully you might start to get a sense of who they're interested in, perhaps they might mention a previous girlfriend or something like that. You could always test the water by mentioning a famous woman you find attractive and see how she responds to that. If you're feeling brave, you could even be honest with her and say something along the lines of 'I don't know about you but sometimes I find it hard to know when a woman is gay/bi/straight'. That could then open up into a conversation where you get an idea of who she's interested in.

    The main thing is not to worry too much, have fun meeting new people and enjoy it!

    Hope that helps

    Lucy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey Lucy,

    I'm just going through the questions from Tuesday night and we didn't get to this one.
    How can I learn how to be better in bed with women without watching porn?! I mean like realistically what other women like rather than just pornified sex??

    Thanks! :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jo7 wrote: »
    How can I learn how to be better in bed with women without watching porn?! I mean like realistically what other women like rather than just pornified sex??

    Just to jump in on this one, I didn't watch porn to know what women like, I asked the women I was with what they would like. Overwhelmingly you must bear in mind that hard isn't better, gentle feathery touches are good, especially to start with. Moaning and wriggling do not necessarily mean go faster/harder, they're approval of what's going on.

    Communication is the way forward, most women like a group of activities but they'll like them in different ways and in different orders and some women will like stuff that's out of left field.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thank you Lucy. That was helpful. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jo7 wrote: »
    Hey *simba*, thanks for your question. Lucy will be getting back to you today :)

    Thank you Jo. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jo7 wrote: »
    Hey *simba*, thanks for your question. Lucy will be getting back to you today :)

    Thank you Jo. :)
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