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No pleasure from sex...
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This is a little more complicated than just simply not getting any pleasure, so please bare with me on this...
Well, as the title says, I get no pleasure from doing anything sexual. Admittedly, I've not actually had sex, but I get no pleasure from masturbating, or anything else like that. Or at least, I usually don't. A little while ago I actually had my first orgasm. My first, and only orgasm, and that's kind of what's complicated about it.
Normally, I don't get hard erections. They're somewhat soft, and if I gripped my penis, it would feel as if the blood was being squeezed out of it. But, the time when I had an orgasm, my penis was actually hard. As in, very hard (it kind of surprised me, seeing as I didn't think they were meant to get *that* hard).
My blood pressure is normal, my hormones are within the average/lower range (however still normal), I take no drugs or any other kind of medication, and I don't drink (apart from on very rare occasion) or smoke.
To be honest, this problem never really bothered me all that much before. It's just that now that I have experienced pleasure from masturbating, I'm kind of wanting to have that feeling of the orgasm again, because... well, it was very pleasurable
I don't really know how to end this... but if anyone has any comments, advice, or even potential solutions, you have no idea how much it would help me out
Well, as the title says, I get no pleasure from doing anything sexual. Admittedly, I've not actually had sex, but I get no pleasure from masturbating, or anything else like that. Or at least, I usually don't. A little while ago I actually had my first orgasm. My first, and only orgasm, and that's kind of what's complicated about it.
Normally, I don't get hard erections. They're somewhat soft, and if I gripped my penis, it would feel as if the blood was being squeezed out of it. But, the time when I had an orgasm, my penis was actually hard. As in, very hard (it kind of surprised me, seeing as I didn't think they were meant to get *that* hard).
My blood pressure is normal, my hormones are within the average/lower range (however still normal), I take no drugs or any other kind of medication, and I don't drink (apart from on very rare occasion) or smoke.
To be honest, this problem never really bothered me all that much before. It's just that now that I have experienced pleasure from masturbating, I'm kind of wanting to have that feeling of the orgasm again, because... well, it was very pleasurable
I don't really know how to end this... but if anyone has any comments, advice, or even potential solutions, you have no idea how much it would help me out
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Do you get turned on mentally? If not that's ok, many people are asexual and that's perfectly fine! Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
Also how old are you? If you are in your early teens, that's not so un-normal. If you do get mentally turned on and you're in your mid teens or older I'd go to your GP. But I won't worry too much, many people go through phases like this.
I kind of do, but kind of don't... I mean, the thought of having sex etc does appeal to me and mentally turn me on, but in no way does it correspond to anything down below.
And I'm 17, soon to be 18. I did go to a doctor, but he was pretty unhelpful, so I'll be booking an appointment to see another one within the next week or two
Try experimenting in the genres of porn, try some things that you wouldn't think would work and try not to focus on making yourself interested. Instead try working your way through various catagories and see if anything pops up!
Personally, I don't think porn is the answer.
I would strongly recommend professional advice, and do tell them about the time things did work out for you.
I'm going to book a doctors appointment tomorrow, so whenever it gets booked for, hopefully I'll get a bit more information, or be referred to some kind of specialist in these matters
Welcome to the boards :wave:
Well done for posting this, it can sometimes be daunting to share these personal worries. Do keep us updated on how things go tomorrow :yes:
Have a look at this article that simply suggests possible reasons for not having a hard erection as you say - here is a snipet;
The doctor should be able to guide you to someone specialised, and/or give you more information or insight in this.
Good luck *hug*
And no, I'm not on any medication. I take the occasional paracetamol, but that's about it :P
Sorry to hear you've got to wait a while for an appointment. I thought I'd direct you to the Sexual Advice Association in the meantime - they have lots of info on their site and you can also call or email them for advice:
Tel: 020 7486 7262 (the helpline is only open on Monday, Weds and Fri 9-5pm)
info@sexualadviceassociation.co.uk
I hope this is useful - good luck!
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Good luck - let us know what you decide and how it goes
And I need to see my doctor about my excessively dry skin anyways, so I think I'll wait until after, just in case he knows of any wonder cures, aha!