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Hey folks
I have just been discussing my mental health in chat, and how it has had a big effect on my relationship with my mum and family. I thought I would start a thread on here about it, and hopefully receive some advice, and maybe see if anybody else has or is going through anything similar.
So I don't have a very good relationship with my mum anymore, things took are bad turn in October 2011, when I was admitted to hospital, and my whole family basically hated me. I felt so alone.
My mum found out about everything, cos I didn't have a choice to not tell her cos it was pretty obvious. This just resulted in us falling out for a long period of time. I hated myself. My family all took my mums side cos why would they wanna believe me?
Things got better cos I told my family I was recovered and that the doctor put me on medication and everything was going to be okay, this wasn't the truth. But my family didn't care so they were fine about me being "better".
Soon after this, they started to treat me like part of the family again. But I was still being quite self destructive.
I currently still take my medication, my family know about the medication but they don't know about anything else. Whenever I even ask my mum if I can talk to her, I just get having ago at, and it's not fair. I know I am an adult and should be able to take it, but it's just hard y'know.
To this day I don't have a good relationship with my mum or the rest of my family. I feel like a bit of a loner in the family. I hate feeling this way, but I feel like if I try to talk to them about my mental health things will go bad again, and I can't deal with that. My mum has mental health problems too, and is seeking support. I wish I could be more like her and be able to get support.
What is wrong with me? I often ask myself that question on repeat when I can't sleep at night, or when I am feeling down.
Thank you for reading
I have just been discussing my mental health in chat, and how it has had a big effect on my relationship with my mum and family. I thought I would start a thread on here about it, and hopefully receive some advice, and maybe see if anybody else has or is going through anything similar.
So I don't have a very good relationship with my mum anymore, things took are bad turn in October 2011, when I was admitted to hospital, and my whole family basically hated me. I felt so alone.
My mum found out about everything, cos I didn't have a choice to not tell her cos it was pretty obvious. This just resulted in us falling out for a long period of time. I hated myself. My family all took my mums side cos why would they wanna believe me?
Things got better cos I told my family I was recovered and that the doctor put me on medication and everything was going to be okay, this wasn't the truth. But my family didn't care so they were fine about me being "better".
Soon after this, they started to treat me like part of the family again. But I was still being quite self destructive.
I currently still take my medication, my family know about the medication but they don't know about anything else. Whenever I even ask my mum if I can talk to her, I just get having ago at, and it's not fair. I know I am an adult and should be able to take it, but it's just hard y'know.
To this day I don't have a good relationship with my mum or the rest of my family. I feel like a bit of a loner in the family. I hate feeling this way, but I feel like if I try to talk to them about my mental health things will go bad again, and I can't deal with that. My mum has mental health problems too, and is seeking support. I wish I could be more like her and be able to get support.
What is wrong with me? I often ask myself that question on repeat when I can't sleep at night, or when I am feeling down.
Thank you for reading
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I probably am not going to give you advice plus i'm really tired and my mind is not working but i have a similar problems like yours. I talk to my mother and all but she doesn't really know who i am, You know it's kind of like you talk to your mum and sometimes we laugh together as well but we don't talk about important stuff or about problems or about myself. We argue alot sometimes too.I feel like i'm in another world from my family. I'm the first one in the family that have brain damage :crazyeyes and crazy so i'm the bad one from the whole family. They don't tell that to my face(even though they do but they don't realize it) but i can tell what they think of me.
My mum is depressed sometimes but she don't admit it (it's because of my dad sometimes because he know how to depress you if he wants to.he even do it to me) I don't really like him and we have nothing in common.Don't know why he is my dad in the first place.
He married my mum because his parents died(he told that in our face) and he didn't want to keep doing the house chores and working all by himself so he married her so she could be his "maid".
I really hate him for that. A few days back he even told us that he wished he never had children.And of course he was refering about me.
So now i end up hating him and wish that he wasn't my dad from the begining.:(
Sorry again for not give you any advice, i'm really sleepy :yes:
Thank you
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Before that, any mention of my mental health problems tended to be met with a tut and a sigh at best.
But now it's much better. She obviously has accepted that it's not just as simple as "just get over it", and she's been much more supportive. I would still find it hard to talk to her but I really think it's worth you trying. Maybe sit her down and be really completely honest with her about how you're feeling?
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I have a lot to think about. Not sure where to start yet. But I am grateful for the advice I am getting on here. It means a lot.
I think with me also its about past experiences cos my family havent been supportive in the past and I am scared that will happen again.
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I guess being honest with her, and asking for her support is something you both need to sit down and do. I'm not at all saying it will be easy, because it won't. But it's worth a go.
I am glad you are able to talk to your mum and are closer.
I have alot to think about. But the good advice ive recieved on here has helped me.
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i've come to the conclution that it's not really worth my time anymore.... how i see it is, no one knows better how you feel than yourself, and if people can't accept that, then that's their problem... not mine
i've ttried showing them videos, artickles, everything- but no good
if their's 1 thing you don't want to do, is get me started on the topic of mental health stigma.... you'll have me here all night
do you have anyone that does understand?
my advice would be to just stick to them and hope for the best... you don't need people in your life who are against you and want to do nothing but ignore you
what i do now when someone who does not understand asks me how i'm doing, is either ignore them, or reply.. well, what do you think?. i usually get a sigh or something along those lines, but hell.. i'm not pretending for anyone
Sorry to hear how things are with you. It sucks when you feel alone in things. Like nobody understands.
I do have my doctor, but I don't really be open and honest with her. I am doing a little better now I have been taking my medication regularly. That has made a huge difference in my mental health. I have a long way to go, but I am trying to not s/h or od and it's hard but I am determined.