If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
When did you start feeling like a grown up?
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in General Chat
My mum keeps telling me how much more grown up than me my sisters were at my age, so it made me think when other people start feeling like/being a grown up.
Was there one moment when it just happened, like first moving out, or did it gradually come upon you?
I'm just curious.
Was there one moment when it just happened, like first moving out, or did it gradually come upon you?
I'm just curious.
0
Comments
Now ive finished all that, im at home and having to think about career and getting my own place and stuff, something i CANNOT wait for! Ive just started a uni course so it wont all happen for another year or so, so feeling like a grown up has been put on hold while my mum still cooks my dinner
I had to grow up fast though, keep your childhood while you can, once it's gone, it's gone
Still don't feel grown up. Never want to.
I'm nearly 27, living away from parents, travelled the world, work damn hard, and still don't consider myself grown up! I still love being looked after at times
ditto!
Sometimes I don't feel all that grown up when I think about the amount of support I've had over the years but each person's circumstance is different. I think accepting help and support from others rather than refusing everyone and going it alone for appearance sake is a much more adult and mature thing to do.
It's all been downhill from there......
But seriously, I'm planning on buying a house next year, guess I'll feel grown up once I move in.
Aye. Also, grace, you consistently underestimate what a big deal what you're doing actually is. It requires a great deal of maturity but also makes it quite likely that you need to lean heavily on your family for support when you get a chance to talk. Your mum only sees that side of things.
The other milestone for me was learning to drive and having that freedom to go anywhere I liked
But really I reckon everyone is different and the main thing to focus on is being happy, we all do so-called grown up things at different stages and it shouldn't really matter what anyone else is doing..
Its a fluctuating thing
i have two older sisters and one moved out when she was 19 to live with her boyfriend and the other went to university. Me on the other hand have just quit college + don't even have a job. But I feel grown up in my own way. I don't think there is a particular age or time you feel grown up it's more on how you personally feel. BUT just concentrate on you + don't compare yourself to your sisters.
This.
I'm 42, I still don't feel grown up. I do recognise though that I have responsibilities towards others that I should live up to.