Home Home, Law & Money
Ongoing maintenance - the boards are undergoing some ongoing, intermittent maintenance. Pages might load slightly slower than usual and there may be very short periods where the boards are offline.

Dunno

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Things are really though for me and my sister at home and it would be good for both of us if we could go somewhere completely new does anyone know if this will be allowed
I am 19 and my sister is 16.It will just be hard first finding somewhere to go and then me providing for the both of us.Any advice would be really helpfull Thanks
Beck

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess legally as you are both over 16 nobody can stop you. If I'm being honest it will be tough for you both though. How about speaking to shelter? They will be able to explain the options for you and your sister (assuming you are in the UK?)

    Here's the website if you are in England http://england.shelter.org.uk/

    And there's also your local council you could go to for help, could be a bit of a wait with them though usually.

    Good Luck :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks it has just got to much we both need to get away where no one will know.It probably will be hard but im used to looking after her.I just want things to be okay again

    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Unfortantly as you both out of "childhood" you won't be accepted in care therefore the best places to recommend are either a refugee/ shelter type place and you'll be surprised how many there are or apply for council housing. But although council housing may appear to be easy to get it may not be that easy due to all the single moms; families + elderly coming first but I really hope you find somewhere safe :) good luck
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks,It will be nice not to have to worry about things all the time an hopefully me and my sister can move on.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It could be worth investigation the YMCA as well.

    I know the M stands for men, but pretty sure they deal with women too, or at least have a section that does.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi there Beckss,

    Sorry to hear that you feel that you need to move away... But this could be a positive step forward in both your lives to start again and move on.

    There is an article on theSite called 'I need to move out' which you might find useful - http://thesite.org/homelawandmoney/home/yourplace/ineedtomoveout

    In particular it might be a good idea to think about the reason that you both want to move out. For example is it something that will get better with some space? Maybe you could move out for a short while (stay with friends or other family) until things blow over?

    Is it an issue that can be resolved through some sort of mediation or family counselling?

    The links to the right of the article give you phone numbers of other organisations that give more specialised housing help; for example Shelter as also mentioned by hmmm7.

    The council will consider various factors when deciding whether you are homeless and whether they owe you a duty to house you. These include whether you are in priority need, whether you are intentionally homeless and whether you have a local connection.

    You might like to check out the links above which are to articles on the Shelter website as well as seeking further advice.

    I hope this helps.

    :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    I wish it was something that would pass but it wont my dad has been abusive to me from the age of about 5 upwards i have reported him to the police but that makes me more scared as the threats would be endless to what he would do if i told.I just think it would be a good idea to move away and i would love to look after my sister still but she makes it so hard my mum has to do it .My mum knew some of what was going on but yet we still went round there okay she didnt know the extent but shes our mum she should have been able to stop it.
    Thanks for the links I will have a look at them
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    I wish it was something that would pass but it wont my dad has been abusive to me from the age of about 5 upwards i have reported him to the police but that makes me more scared as the threats would be endless to what he would do if i told.I just think it would be a good idea to move away and i would love to look after my sister still but she makes it so hard my mum has to do it .My mum knew some of what was going on but yet we still went round there okay she didnt know the extent but shes our mum she should have been able to stop it.I think i should move away to as he only lives like 15 minutes away from me ,it would give me peace of mind too ,hopefully i will be able to move anyway if i get into uni
    Thanks for the links I will have a look at them
    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It would be hard ans really tough for the both of you. You must have a job for you to earn a living and live.
Sign In or Register to comment.