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11 yr age gap
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Is an 11 year age gap too much?
I'm 28 and male.
Edit: She's Polish or Hungarian.... I cannot remember
Short but sweet question
I'm 28 and male.
Edit: She's Polish or Hungarian.... I cannot remember
Short but sweet question
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Oops. I meant 9 years.
I haven't had a girlfriend EVER. I told someone at work that I had a crush on a lass and he told this person. I sent her a message on facebook on friday asking if she's single. And she said "no".
Now I might try my luck with this older lass. She's 37 years old.
I was on THREE dating sites (which I've just deleted because they're a waste of time). I put on I'm looking for women who were between 23 and 35yrs old.
I guess two more years difference isn't all that bad.
I'm just not sure about asking her if she's single and if she would like to go out sometime.
Would probably be a good thing to find out!
Yes it would. But I should know though. I just can't remember.
If you like her, go for it.
That's definitely a new and novel approach to dating :yeees:
Just because ferrari isn't posting in a pc manner, can you really deny that those thoughts haven't gone through your head when in a similar situation? It isn't as if he went up to the woman and said "sorry, can't be arsed with you." What one says and what one thinks can be very different, and I'd take a bet that most of you have thought the same thing.
Age CAN be just a number but there are times when it can be an overriding factor. I'm 38 and in all honest have NEVER acted my age. Not so much immaturity, more 'youthful' or 'growing old disgracefully'.
Having not long come out of the most serious relationship of my life I'm nowhere near ready to start looking for another but if I was going to, then a 9 year age gap (above or below) would automatically bring up my defences. Simply put, someone closer to my own age is far more likely to have things in common with me.
I have a 25 year old niece. The other week I was asked if I could be on taxi duty for her. When I went to pick her up I was asked to stick around the party for a while. There were plenty of people her own age there and whilst some were remarkably mature, I could hardly have felt any more OLD and out of place. I'm not just talking about the females, some of the lads were decent types, one or two were not long from qualifying as doctors. But I still felt like someone's older uncle. Well yeah I was, but you get what I'm saying.
I certainly was not there to pull, or get back in the dating game - as I said I'm light-years away from that. But just hanging out with them felt sort of wrong.
However this just applies to me. Everyone has their own understanding and views on these things. I'm guessing the point I'm making is just because it worked/failed for someone else doesn't mean it would be the same for you.
Saying that, if you have to ask the question then I suspect you may already know the answer.
I went to a house party the other day, we're all 29 however the host's 16 year old cousin was present. Boy was it a weird novelty having someone so young there.
But a relationship is about listening. I think you need to work on that.