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Grandmother died recently
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Hi,
My grandmother died on Tuesday. She was 95, the day before her 96th birthday.
It felt very strange being in her house with other family members and she wasn't there.
Over the years I've seen her a lot as she lived in the same town and I was her carer for the last couple of years.
I've felt sad, but I know that life has to go on.
There's a part of me that's not sure how to feel - I have felt sad, but then people say you need to look at the good times.
My Mum seems to be coping quite well.
Maybe there isn't a right or wrong when people die how it affects people. My Dad didn't seem too emotional when his mother died a few years back.
With previous bereavements I've felt sad, but then as time goes on you think more about the memories - I look back with fondness over time spent with my other grandparents. I guess you can't take away good memories even though the other person may have died.
My grandmother died on Tuesday. She was 95, the day before her 96th birthday.
It felt very strange being in her house with other family members and she wasn't there.
Over the years I've seen her a lot as she lived in the same town and I was her carer for the last couple of years.
I've felt sad, but I know that life has to go on.
There's a part of me that's not sure how to feel - I have felt sad, but then people say you need to look at the good times.
My Mum seems to be coping quite well.
Maybe there isn't a right or wrong when people die how it affects people. My Dad didn't seem too emotional when his mother died a few years back.
With previous bereavements I've felt sad, but then as time goes on you think more about the memories - I look back with fondness over time spent with my other grandparents. I guess you can't take away good memories even though the other person may have died.
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I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmother. *hug*
It sounds like you're coping really well though and focusing on the good memories sounds like a really healthy way to keep your brain busy. The important thing about grief is there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to do it - it affects everyone differently and therefore it's likely other family members will react in different ways.
Grief can also come in waves - and if you hit a bad patch - it might be worth checking out Cruse Bereavement Care. Or keep posting here on the boards.
Take care of yourself
Holly