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Hey guys. :wave: This is half rant, and half asking for your advice!
I'll start from the beginning.. I met a guy at a club, he texts me and asks me out for a drink. We text for about 2 weeks and then finally go out. (It took a lot for me to go out since I have social anxiety disorder. But I'm in the middle of therapy hence the pushing myself to actually go out! :thumb:) After that he doesn't text me. So I text him in case he thought I wasn't interested. He texts back, but I get the impression he's not interested since it's not like it was before. So I was a bit bummed about that.
I see him out again on a weekend twice, say hi and he's nice and friendly. Great, he doesn't think I'm a complete weirdo haha. So I eventually start moving on from the rejection and then bam! I see him out again and he asks me back to his place. I slept at his that night. We made out, I gave him a hand job, but declined intercourse which he seemed fine about. I recall him saying, 'you don't have to', which I thought was pretty decent of him.
The next morning I'm hungover like crazy, and he's practically spooning me and trying to hold my hands. We talk for a bit and then I leave with his hoodie. The day after I text him about arranging a good day for me to drop his hoodie off, he says the specified day is good. So 2 days after that I text him saying what time I'll be coming, again he's cool with the time. So I drop it off, we talk for about 5 mins, he's friendly and says thanks for dropping it off.
The thing is, he's such a nice guy, and I like him! But I don't think he likes me like I would want him to. And I'm not entirely sure if I like him or if its just lust, and the idea of having someone.
Questions: Should I text him now I've given him his hoodie? If I should what should I say? I'd be quite happy to have a casual relationship with him, but if a guy wanted that I'm guessing he would iniciate it? Idk. :banghead: What would you do?
Thanks in advance
I'll start from the beginning.. I met a guy at a club, he texts me and asks me out for a drink. We text for about 2 weeks and then finally go out. (It took a lot for me to go out since I have social anxiety disorder. But I'm in the middle of therapy hence the pushing myself to actually go out! :thumb:) After that he doesn't text me. So I text him in case he thought I wasn't interested. He texts back, but I get the impression he's not interested since it's not like it was before. So I was a bit bummed about that.
I see him out again on a weekend twice, say hi and he's nice and friendly. Great, he doesn't think I'm a complete weirdo haha. So I eventually start moving on from the rejection and then bam! I see him out again and he asks me back to his place. I slept at his that night. We made out, I gave him a hand job, but declined intercourse which he seemed fine about. I recall him saying, 'you don't have to', which I thought was pretty decent of him.
The next morning I'm hungover like crazy, and he's practically spooning me and trying to hold my hands. We talk for a bit and then I leave with his hoodie. The day after I text him about arranging a good day for me to drop his hoodie off, he says the specified day is good. So 2 days after that I text him saying what time I'll be coming, again he's cool with the time. So I drop it off, we talk for about 5 mins, he's friendly and says thanks for dropping it off.
The thing is, he's such a nice guy, and I like him! But I don't think he likes me like I would want him to. And I'm not entirely sure if I like him or if its just lust, and the idea of having someone.
Questions: Should I text him now I've given him his hoodie? If I should what should I say? I'd be quite happy to have a casual relationship with him, but if a guy wanted that I'm guessing he would iniciate it? Idk. :banghead: What would you do?
Thanks in advance
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I had really bad social anxiety. It does make dating hard, but this guy sounds like he's making you feel relaxed which is great