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So first of all hello (yeah i joined just so i can get advice)
Okay ive got myself into a bit of a bad situation and i just want an opinion from other people who are not involved in it.
so i met a girl recently who i immediatly started seeing. she approached me and gave me her number. but she told me she has a fiance who she wants to leave because she doesnt see him alot anymore. (he works away alot but i dont know what he does)
so i carried on seeing her knowing this and its got to the point now where i am feeling something for her but she still hasnt broke up with him and when i bring the topic up she gets a little defensive.
After i told her that i dont want to be in a relationship if shes still with him.
she told me that when shes around me she takes her ring off, she says she really likes me and that shes alot happier being around me and she does want to be with me.
But the thing is she hasnt chosen me or him.
She left the choice upto him by telling him that its her or his job
honestly i feel like im now just a backup plan if he decides to stay with his job
ive spoke with friends and family and im getting 50/50 on whether to carry on seeing her or just stop all together
i dont want to stop seeing her but i dont want to get hurt if things dont workout
and yes i know i sound like a bad guy asking someone to break up with their fiance but i really do like her
just need some opinions on what i should do if you need more info just ask thanks
Okay ive got myself into a bit of a bad situation and i just want an opinion from other people who are not involved in it.
so i met a girl recently who i immediatly started seeing. she approached me and gave me her number. but she told me she has a fiance who she wants to leave because she doesnt see him alot anymore. (he works away alot but i dont know what he does)
so i carried on seeing her knowing this and its got to the point now where i am feeling something for her but she still hasnt broke up with him and when i bring the topic up she gets a little defensive.
After i told her that i dont want to be in a relationship if shes still with him.
she told me that when shes around me she takes her ring off, she says she really likes me and that shes alot happier being around me and she does want to be with me.
But the thing is she hasnt chosen me or him.
She left the choice upto him by telling him that its her or his job
honestly i feel like im now just a backup plan if he decides to stay with his job
ive spoke with friends and family and im getting 50/50 on whether to carry on seeing her or just stop all together
i dont want to stop seeing her but i dont want to get hurt if things dont workout
and yes i know i sound like a bad guy asking someone to break up with their fiance but i really do like her
just need some opinions on what i should do if you need more info just ask thanks
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Girls who can't make up their mind.
Worse than constipation. Don't waste your time.
But, who will hurt most in the long term? I think you will, only my opinion mind you.
What will be easiest for her? To break up with you or her fiancé.
Be careful, dangerous ground.