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slightly gross question about anal
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if a guy cums up my bum, will his cum leak out or will it come out next time I go to the toilet?! (my current bf and I have been tested and are std free, so we want to do it without a condom)
Should I go the toilet before anal?!
Thanks!
Alice
Should I go the toilet before anal?!
Thanks!
Alice
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So whilst you both may be STI free, there is a risk of infection from other nasty bacteria, so could be best to do it with a condom on.
For the same reason that its best to use dental dams when doing analingus, not because of STDs but because of E. coli, and all kinds of other nastys you can get from fecal matter.
Semen is a fascinating substance - while it quickly sets shortly after production, it then liquefies about half an hour later; if you're up and about it's a slow enough process for it to dry off with your body heat as it comes out, but if you're in bed you'll end up in "the damp patch"
In general there should be no need to go to the loo before hand - faeces tend not to enter the rectum until they're ready to be delivered, and the internal plumbing tends to keep itself fairly clean (if your stools are excessively loose, or on the other hand cluster like rabbit droppings then this is less likely to be true, you should fix your diet), so you shouldn't need to rinse out before hand -doing so may make things a bit riskier, but on the other hand it can remove a source of worry - so while I'd recommend against, it's whichever you feel more comfortable with.
remember to use lots of lube.
As for the cum, it will trickle out afterwards, yes!
Tbh, going to the toilet beforehand should be enough, but I'd STILL use a condom! If you really don't want to then just be prepared for a little leakage...
My boyfriend wants to do it backbare, and I don't think I mind apart from the cum leaking out issue (he wants to do it at a party, and I'm not too keen on cum leaking out for the rest of the night).
^what he said^
It's important to make sure you are happy with what your boyfriend is asking. Like many have mentioned, the first time doing anal sex should be in a comfortable, and intimate situation - otherwise it could be very painful.
Have a look at our article on anal play and on the importance of using condoms.
Perhaps speaking to him about your concerns can help? Sometimes couples have different views of what is unfair in terms of sexual demands - as long as you talk about it and understand each other then there should be nothing to worry about
Do let us know how you get on
Make sure you go to the toilet beforehand. Also I would recommend a practice run before getting into it at the party. At the very least try a couple of fingers. Having a few drinks first helps relax too.