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End of a dry spree

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
So, last night, after several months of not being sexually active (even through freshers week...) I finally managed to pull and slept with a girl. It went well, very well in fact, foreplay was good, the sex itself was great but I didn't cum...this isn't the first time this has happened and in all honesty I felt a bit disappointed at this but also happy that considering the lack of recent sex I didn't cum incredibly fast!

Anyway, has anyone got any tips for being able to cum during sex?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm assuming from your name you're a lad? I thought all we needed to do to have an orgasm was to stick it in a hole....? I can understand performance anxiety, and for that reason I wouldn't worry too much about it. Get thinner johnnies next time.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I assumed the same, but obviously we were wrong, haha!
    I wasn't exactly nervous about it tbh, I guess maybe i was at some level but it wasn't noticeable on my part! I'll give that a go next time
    Thanks
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you on any medications? Sometimes this can affect things.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nope, not been on any medication for awhile now and the only recent ones I was on were painkillers about 2 months ago so I doubt there gonna be affecting me
    I'm not getting hugely bothered about it but I just kinda wanna be able to climax, haha
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Happens all the time, especially where you've had a bit to drink or smoke.

    I doubt your partner will be too bothered about your stamina. If it's going to be a more regular thing I'd say that bashing bishops and choking monkeys a bit less often helps ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you've gone a while without having sex but have masturbated regularly without problems, you've likely "trained" yourself to orgasm to masturbation and have been de-conditioned to orgasms from intercourse.

    This is very, very common among men who watch a lot of porn, too.

    Decreasing the frequency of masturbation (or stopping temporarily) can help if that is the case.

    However, if you've been unable to ejaculate when masturbating, too, the problem could be "reverse ejaculation" which could lead to fertility. It's possible for men to have orgasms without ejaculating at all, with normal ejaculation, or where it backs up into the bladder instead. If you are having orgasms but not ejaculating, you should consult a doctor.

    BTW, congrats on your recent love life developments!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had sex this morning. With a girl.

    Finally lost my virginity this week.
    I didn't cum, but I didn't have high expectations for my first time, either. Interesting point from Whowhere about using thinner condoms. I couldn't feel a thing through the ones I was using. To the point where I wasn't sure if I was in. Also, good advice from jellygator. I've been fapping since I was a teenager, so real sex maybe isn't hitting all the right buttons. Anyway, I'll perseverse. It can only get better with a bit more practice. :naughty:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    using thinner condoms.

    They make all the difference if you're using them. Yes, you can't blow them up and stick them on your head, but when being used for what they're designed for they're just as safe.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi curly_boy,

    There have been some good points here, and as jellygator asked, do you manage to come when you masturbate? If this is only happens during sex, then at least you know you are capable of ejaculation, and perhaps other factors are affecting you while having sex? If you are not sure and this continues, perhaps visiting your GP could help in order to get some health advice.

    If you are also struggling to come while masturbating, then also visiting your GP can help you figure out if anything is going wrong.

    The quote below is taken from this question similar to yours;
    Similarly, delayed ejaculation (i.e. experiencing difficulties to ejaculate) is not uncommon. It can also have physical or psychological causes, with stress and anxiety being common factors [...] The first step to overcoming the problem is to face up to it and discuss it as openly as possible.

    Also have a look at this similar question, relating to masturbation as well.

    Good luck, do let us know how you get on :)
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