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End of a dry spree
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So, last night, after several months of not being sexually active (even through freshers week...) I finally managed to pull and slept with a girl. It went well, very well in fact, foreplay was good, the sex itself was great but I didn't cum...this isn't the first time this has happened and in all honesty I felt a bit disappointed at this but also happy that considering the lack of recent sex I didn't cum incredibly fast!
Anyway, has anyone got any tips for being able to cum during sex?
Anyway, has anyone got any tips for being able to cum during sex?
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I wasn't exactly nervous about it tbh, I guess maybe i was at some level but it wasn't noticeable on my part! I'll give that a go next time
Thanks
I'm not getting hugely bothered about it but I just kinda wanna be able to climax, haha
I doubt your partner will be too bothered about your stamina. If it's going to be a more regular thing I'd say that bashing bishops and choking monkeys a bit less often helps
This is very, very common among men who watch a lot of porn, too.
Decreasing the frequency of masturbation (or stopping temporarily) can help if that is the case.
However, if you've been unable to ejaculate when masturbating, too, the problem could be "reverse ejaculation" which could lead to fertility. It's possible for men to have orgasms without ejaculating at all, with normal ejaculation, or where it backs up into the bladder instead. If you are having orgasms but not ejaculating, you should consult a doctor.
BTW, congrats on your recent love life developments!
Finally lost my virginity this week.
I didn't cum, but I didn't have high expectations for my first time, either. Interesting point from Whowhere about using thinner condoms. I couldn't feel a thing through the ones I was using. To the point where I wasn't sure if I was in. Also, good advice from jellygator. I've been fapping since I was a teenager, so real sex maybe isn't hitting all the right buttons. Anyway, I'll perseverse. It can only get better with a bit more practice.
They make all the difference if you're using them. Yes, you can't blow them up and stick them on your head, but when being used for what they're designed for they're just as safe.
There have been some good points here, and as jellygator asked, do you manage to come when you masturbate? If this is only happens during sex, then at least you know you are capable of ejaculation, and perhaps other factors are affecting you while having sex? If you are not sure and this continues, perhaps visiting your GP could help in order to get some health advice.
If you are also struggling to come while masturbating, then also visiting your GP can help you figure out if anything is going wrong.
The quote below is taken from this question similar to yours;
Also have a look at this similar question, relating to masturbation as well.
Good luck, do let us know how you get on