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Being a good person/citizen?
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In my eyes; courage, discipline, respect for others, integrity, loyalty and selfless commitment, are all values which can and should contribute to being a good person/citizen.
What do you guys think is missing, what perhaps shouldn't or doesn't need to be in there? What qualities do you most admire about yourself and/your friends, how best can be instil these in the youth of today who may well be our future leaders?
Discuss........
What do you guys think is missing, what perhaps shouldn't or doesn't need to be in there? What qualities do you most admire about yourself and/your friends, how best can be instil these in the youth of today who may well be our future leaders?
Discuss........
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i'm not trying to be facetious but i feel uncomfortable with the idea that by living somewhere you somehow 'owe' that community something. qualities are individual and i dont think they should be universally applicable.
i like and get on with my friends because they make me laugh and care.
Therefore by extension I would say that you don't necessarily have to be a citizen to be a "good citizen"
I also don't believe in 'good' or 'bad' people... Only action and intent... Some behaviour being useful, some being detrimental. People change day by day, we shouldn't label them as this or that...
Qualities I admire in people are a "go getting" kind of attitude... That is, individuals actually get up and do something, rather than moan about it. People who are themselves and don't really give a shit what other people think... Empathy, but also being able to distance yourself from people... Bravery in taking risks for your convictions... Humility...
Of course, none of these traits or absolute, or permanent... The difference between courage and cowardice for example, can be what's at stake... The difference between empathy and wanting revenge against somebody can be socialisation, mood, other environmental factors...
I like to believe all humans have 'good' in them and are essentially 'good' because they can contribute to the world in a way that brings happiness... But all humans can do harm as well...
The behaviour and appearance of that woman suggests to me she on some sort of stimulant drug. Most people don't gurn and rock like that when they're straight.
That's exactly what I thought - not that it justifies her behaviour, but is certainly worth noting.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=zV2S2WFJqcA#!
yeah that is also true.
ohhhhhhh dear. 'non-whites'. lol
I'd think that depends on what one's working definition of a good or bad person is. I'd argue a 'bad person' is a useful shortcut term for people who've exhibited a predilection towards deliberate action - or deliberate lack of action - which leads to detrimental outcome. I'm not certain that you're exhibiting it here, but there does appear to be an attitude prevalent among liberal folk to sanitise language, particularly negative language. 'Good' and 'bad' can cease to mean anything in certain liberals' lexicons. Or even worse they become taboo words. I believe in good and bad people; I just don't apply the terms with any sense of absolutism.
People do change day-by-day, no doubt, but unless you're arguing for the slate to be wiped clean immediately after each action they take, particularly the negative ones, then I'm not really sure what you're arguing. Whether you chose to label someone as 'bad' or 'a person who has committed a range of deliberate actions with intended negative consequences' is much of a much to me.
I agree with you broadly about about labelling people, though, and am at often at pains to avoid being labelled.
Strongly agree.
I simply treat people as I'd like to be treated, literally. I'm nice to most people and if I don't get on with a person I make sure our paths don't cross often. I'm not religious and I know it's a Biblical quote and probably a cliche in itself, but life would be much better if everyone treated people how they'd like to be treated.
I've always thought this about the Golden Rule. It's often - wrongly - hailed as an example of Judeo-Christian morality, but its seems rather flawed for the reason you cite. A better example would be 'treat people how they'd like to be treated', though I'm sure that's not perfect either.
Hahaha
Respect for others, check.
Respect for the law?
Pride in your appearance, pride in your home, pride in your community.
A good citizen should be active in the community and try to help out. Not just look after No. 1.
I'm someone who keeps a tidy house, answers my mail (and returns mail that isn't meant for me), votes in elections and for the most part doesn't try to piss off the neighbours. I obey the law but I also like to take an active part in improving the world in a variety of voluntary roles. When I have children I will educate them to do the same. I like to think of myself as a good citizen.
If you run a crack house, abuse your children or your pets, or cause harm to others, you are a bad citizen.