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Are some people just not meant to have relationships?
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and by that I mean friendships as well as romantic/sexual ones....
Very much how I feel at the moment. Like I am incapable of connecting with anyone.
So what do you think? Are some people just "supposed" to be by themselves? Starting to feel like it would be considerably less painful to make zero effort than just be disappointed constantly.
Very much how I feel at the moment. Like I am incapable of connecting with anyone.
So what do you think? Are some people just "supposed" to be by themselves? Starting to feel like it would be considerably less painful to make zero effort than just be disappointed constantly.
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Nobody says tho, that everyone wants those things, or that everyone wants to acquire those things out of a relationship. If you feel like you don't want a relationship, so be it, but I guess you can't be sad then for not having one. If you want one, you will work on it to get one, and when you have one you will be adamant to do things to let the relationship last. Which, looking at the vast number of people who want relationships, is just a matter of time and patience.
Yes.
Of course you have to put everything in perspective. If the only times you leave your house is to buy groceries or go to work the chances are slim that your future partner will come to your doorstep, knock, and ask to hook up.
Coincidentally, next year it will be my 10 year mark (not regarding little somethingsomethings, and a ultrashort relationship of a week I was hustled into and wasn't feeling at all).
I think its just a case of sucking it up, and going out there, finding someone you like and say "Hi, how you doing?" (in the least Joey from friends way). Once you break the ice, you can either go forward or you can leave it. Its all about confidence.
Picturing Gok Wan
- nice
- good looking
- like long walks at the beach
- Have been single for x years (which is z years longer than my best friend, who frequently has a partner)
Nobody gives a shit.
For me a relationship is a bonus. When I am doing good in live, I can indulge myself in a relationship to top it off. I don't even moan anymore, because as long as I don't start doing great stuff and get my life rolling in a way that I have nothing to bitch about I have other problems than not having a girlfriend. And getting a girlfriend doesn't make my life magically better.
I'm not sure how to feel about that
Romantic relationships are different, there are loads more factors but I don't think it should have to be that much of a struggle to make platonic friends. I think you can be happy without a relationship but I don't think you can be happy without friends. It does take time to find and make friends and after leaving education you do have to put in more effort but if after a year or more of struggling and getting nowhere with making friends I think its time to accept that you're on to a loser.
If you don't feel like you are connecting with people then maybe its time to look at how you interact with people, however it could also be that you are living in the wrong place with the wrong people.