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How do I get my girlfriend to forgo sex and just snuggle with me?
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I like having sex but prefer to cuddle and snuggle with her. How do I approach this with a sex-addicted girlfriend. I like her personality but am on the verge of breaking up unless she can be more intimate with me in the near future. I want to have her wrap her arms around me while I do the same to her but it always leads to sex. How can I smooch and hug and hold her without sex always being an end result?
Ladies (or men), thanks.
Ladies (or men), thanks.
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Welcome to the boards :wave:
This issue clearly matters a lot to you and is therefore worth dealing with. Cuddling and affection can be a big part of a relationship, as essential as sex for some. Intimacy comes in many different forms depending on people's needs.
You sound a little worried on how to approach this with your girlfriend - but it seems like there is no other way but to mention this to her. Have a look at our article on communicating as a couple - and simply try to be honest.
You could make sure she understands you love having sex with her, but at times you feel a snuggle is what you need and is as important to you as you love being with her
Let us know how you get on *hug*
snuggling cuddling and then no sex, is like being hungry like a wolf, cooking up a badass lasagna for 1,5 hours and then throw it out without taking a bite and eat some zwieback.
Obviously, there's overlap (hah!) but I always thought men generally insist on sex while many women prefer cuddling, at least some of the time. If you do need to exchange your girlfriend for a new one, you will likely find lots of takers.
Personally, I think you are a fine catch.