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Too much to handle
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I didn't know where to put this, so it may be in the wrong place.
I started college last week and it was a really bad day, not been much better since. I got really upset on the first day bacause I've got all this crap going on and college on top of it just seems like too much.
I broke down on the first day which really embarrassed me, I got lost, I tried to withdraw, not really made any friends, and since then I just.. I don't know. I don't want to be there but everyone will be disappointed.
I don't get much sleep, I could stay up 'till about two in the morning writing in my diary and I get up at 7 for college. It's hard to stay awake during the day. I'm exhausted, drained, and I just want to go to sleep and never wake up.
I just don't think I can cope, I'm having a really hard time and I don't know what to do.
I have to stay at college, It just seems like I can't fit in, that I don't belong there. It's just adding to my stress.
I started college last week and it was a really bad day, not been much better since. I got really upset on the first day bacause I've got all this crap going on and college on top of it just seems like too much.
I broke down on the first day which really embarrassed me, I got lost, I tried to withdraw, not really made any friends, and since then I just.. I don't know. I don't want to be there but everyone will be disappointed.
I don't get much sleep, I could stay up 'till about two in the morning writing in my diary and I get up at 7 for college. It's hard to stay awake during the day. I'm exhausted, drained, and I just want to go to sleep and never wake up.
I just don't think I can cope, I'm having a really hard time and I don't know what to do.
I have to stay at college, It just seems like I can't fit in, that I don't belong there. It's just adding to my stress.
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Firstly getting upset is nothing to be embarrased about people handle things in different ways... Maybe talking to somebody about these feelings will help you, is this something you may consider? With regards to the lack of sleep, sometimes i take Kalms, they are a natural remedy to help me fall asleep, you dont really notice you have taken them.. Also another thing that could help is to write things down before you go to sleep and then just rip the piece of paper up and throw it away. This can be very helpful. Going to college is a big step and give it time and im sure you will make new friends. Just take it one day at a time hun. Everything will be okay i promise you.
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I might try Kalms, I do write but I don't really like to rip things up.
Thanks.
I guess I like it, and the people seem fine, but I just don't want to be there because the whole pressure of it all and the new changes is adding stress I don't need.
Other than that, it is not unusual to feel overwhelmed at new situations like a new college so don't beat yourself up about it - a lot of other students will be feeling like they can't handle it either so don't feel like you're alone. But it does get better when you get more familiar with it and feel like you are a part of the college instead of just a new visitor, when you make some nice friends and in general things just start to pick up.
*hug*
Yeah, I get that.
Have you set yourself a rigid routine for getting to sleep? I've fallen out of mine but I used to have a very strict routine of being in bed by 11, with a drink and a note pad. I would write down how I was feeling in 5 bullet points, and then a quick to-do list of things that needed to be done. Once that was done, i'd get comfy and put on a sleep hypnosis tape. I find them incredibly helpful, not everyone does, but its worth a try. If you have an Iphone you can get one of the andrew johnson ones for about £1.99. Having lavender oil on a tissue by your pillow might help as well.
I agree with the others about a good routine for sleep - Miss Riot's suggestions are really good. My mum has a pillow with a speaker in it (surprisingly comfy!) which she got from Amazon and she plays hypnosis tapes or white noise through that, which works quite well for her (we're an insomniac family, we have all sorts of weird gadgets!).
Also, my sister (who has ME) has found that using a light-based alarm clock to wake up to means she wakes up in tune with her natural rhythm and isn't jolted out of sleep like a regular alarm clock does.
This is an example of the kind of clock I was talking about, could find out exactly which one she uses if you like.
The tutor of the course knows I have aspergers. I've been asked if I want like a support worker to sit in with me but I don't want to be looking stupid, everyone else is fine. I might talk to the tutor though on wednesday, not really sure what I'd say though.
I might try the note pad thing, with the bullet points. And I think I might get one of those clocks. Thanks.
Its really important you address the not eating in college. That going to make you feel rotten!
I don't mind feeling rotton, I'm not eating at college. I don't really like eating anything at home though either, so it's not much of a difference.