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Sex therapy isn't working...
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had 5 sessions now, and things really aren't any better. The doctor told me to change from using condoms to a mirena, but she's put me on the mini-pill for time being...
But things are no better. It did get better for a short while, but now its still painfull, or numb and i still am having flashbacks - maybe not so much a vision but a horrible sensation. She's told me to go away, get the mirena, and have lots of sex, and come back in October...I just don't feel comfortable with the advice she's given me. Totally steered me away from dealing with anything from the past, and to mastabate more...which I'm not very comfortable with...
Any suggestions what I do now?
But things are no better. It did get better for a short while, but now its still painfull, or numb and i still am having flashbacks - maybe not so much a vision but a horrible sensation. She's told me to go away, get the mirena, and have lots of sex, and come back in October...I just don't feel comfortable with the advice she's given me. Totally steered me away from dealing with anything from the past, and to mastabate more...which I'm not very comfortable with...
Any suggestions what I do now?
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When I had sex therapy last year she said about masterbating but I didn't want to, I associate this with bad things and when I explained it she understood. When you go back maybe you could explore why you aren't comfortable with it?
Would you be ok with me sending you my dilators? I'll make sure they're all clean/sanitary etc before I send them but they did wonders for me. If not I think you can buy them. It's really worth it, I promise. They did more for me than, "You just need to relax" did.
I wonder if i'm just not telling her the right things during the session. I'm going to start a diary of whats going on and go from there.
RG- no I haven't tried that. The doctor has been only seeing me and seems to want me to work on me and not the actual act of sex... its a bit bizzare really...
Yoyo, tonight on our stages Masta Bate will heat this club UP in this mothafuckah YEAH.
Yeah that's what it was like for me actually. I also had a book called Overcoming Sexual Problems which I found to be more use and had exercises for couples to do together as well as alone.
has anyone tried somatics? I've been reading healing sex by staci hanes, and it talks a lot about somatics...
I need to take the intiative now, I'm going to try and get an appointment with the dr again and see if we can focus on me and my experience rather than us as there is no longer and us...
So, self-loving techniques? and learning to really be in the moment, not thinking about what to have for dinner, or what bills I haven't paid...
any ideas would be awesome...
thanks!
If you believe it "doesn't work on you" it never will. Have you tried something like moodgym to get into it in your own time.
I am keeping a very open mind, but I don't want to re-stimulate old stuff locked in my head.
That book is brilliant in my opinion, it really helped me.
http://mindapples.org/
Not strictly sex related, but might help you in a more general sense