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My best friend is going to uni in a few weeks and I'm really sad. She helps me forget, but she's going and to be honest, She's the only person that keeps me going.
Also, my counsellor has to stop working with me in a few weeks because I turn 18. Although I have a trust issue with her, I've realised I need her.
I just feel kind of.. done now. I don't know what to do.
Also, my counsellor has to stop working with me in a few weeks because I turn 18. Although I have a trust issue with her, I've realised I need her.
I just feel kind of.. done now. I don't know what to do.
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I won't lie and say no one drifts off when they go to uni, but a good friend will still find some time for you even if it's less than before.
I don't want anyone else
Your next counsellor might be lovely, and you have no baggage with a new person so maybe you would trust them more.
Make sure that your councillor does refer you on. Maybe even ask if there is a transistion team? Some places do have a team who help with the referals and transistion from CAMHS to adult services.
I don't want a new counsellor.
Unless you blissfully ignore it all until its all gone, you have to deal with it.
Thanks though.
Using thesite isnt going to be the same as making the effort to make new friends and expand your social circles. I know the scary thing is not knowing what or who is out there when you feel like you are on your own, but thats the thing, you dont know that it is all bad. Think of when you met your friend or your councillor for the first time, after all there was a point in time when you didnt know them.
Who says you might not make a new friend in the coming weeks and months who ends up being just as important to you as your current friend is now?
Thesite is about helping people, and we cant do that if you are just dismissive to every suggestion, this situations is looking like it is going to happen, so shutting yourself away from advice will not change that fact. You are best being proactive and dealing with the situation now, rather than seeing how you get on afterwards.
Is it that you feel you won't be able to cope without your friend and this particular councellor?
What is it you are wanting? Do you want your friend to stay for you?
Miss_riot, of course I don't want her to stay for me. I'm glad she's happy and she's doing what she has always wanted to do. But yeah, I feel like I wont be able to cope.
You may well find that you do much better than you think you will when your friend goes away. Whatever happens, someone going to uni really doesn't mean that they disappear from your life. Uni is very much a term time only thing these days, so your friends base will still be around your current area and it will be important to them to keep up friends at home.
As for the counsellor, try and take a step back. You've got one currently that routinely works with children, and that you have a trust issue with. You're a young adult, and counsellors you definitely don't trust are generally a waste of space. It's a great opportunity for a fresh start to the counselling.