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Is it possible?...
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In today's society it seems that its expected that all women of working age are meant to be/do/have the following:
- a successful career
- a well kept house
- a good cook
- organised
- to keep fit
- to look good and fashionable
- to look after your money
- healthy
- do things for your community
- have time for friends
- have interesting hobbies
and so and so forth...
Is it possible for anyone to do that? Maybe I'm just feeling like I'm not a very good person but I'm not any of those things, and I kind of thus feel I am not of very much value to society...
Does anyone manage to do all of this and remain sane? Or at least some of it?
If so answers on the back of a postcard please!
- a successful career
- a well kept house
- a good cook
- organised
- to keep fit
- to look good and fashionable
- to look after your money
- healthy
- do things for your community
- have time for friends
- have interesting hobbies
and so and so forth...
Is it possible for anyone to do that? Maybe I'm just feeling like I'm not a very good person but I'm not any of those things, and I kind of thus feel I am not of very much value to society...
Does anyone manage to do all of this and remain sane? Or at least some of it?
If so answers on the back of a postcard please!
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Some of them can be lumped together, like staying fit and being healthy. If you make enough money, you could hire somebody to clean and organize (or have children, I'm sure that is their purpose). Hobbies might include doing things for your community.
I think what gets most people is that they feel like they don't have time to most of the things on that list, or their own list because of item number one. Many people think that a successful career involves working umpteen hours a week and spending all their time and energy on that, thus sacrificing anything else they want to do. It is all about balance, time management and whatever makes you happy.
I think though, like you say, people expect you to be ambitious and want to have a 'career', and now ive finished uni i am feeling a bit of pressure from people (family, friends, even regular customers at work) to go off and have this high flying successful career. Also i get the feeling that some people think if you choose to be just a stay at home mum then you're takng the easy way out and have no ambition to do anything worthwhile. Raising children imo is worthwhile though. I think that as long as YOU are happy with your lot in life and if not, can change things, then bollocks to what anyone else is doing
I think the best avenue is to try and do what makes you happiest and fulfill as many of your dreams as possible...
A good book I read on trying to get the most of your life and pursuing your happiness was Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy. He's followed other motivational and 'life coaches' and studied a lot and come up with instead of some crappy strange gimmick just some general themes and ideas that never hurt.
Number one is to identify what matters to you and set a goal to work towards in that field whether thats finding fulfilling love or getting to the top of the career ladder... thats up to you. I hope it goes well for you
... but where's love, or even lust? Guess they are (or at least the first one) what's most important to me.. particularly love of one's children/wife/partner.
I'm a guy living by myself, recently made redundant, but i still have a flat tio maintain,and keep tidy for the boys to come round and mess it up.. and cook for them etc..
So I guess i know where tyou coming from. And please don't mention religion. I am now a devout atheist!:)
most people prioritise out of those sort of things, but dont do everything
Maybe I'm just beating myself up a bit, because I've spent most of this week in bed with flu-y like horribleness and being constantly tired, on top of all my usual aches and pains, when all of my friends are off doing great things because they've just graduated and a lot of them have gotten jobs or at least are heading in that direction.
I'm not sure I really have much direction...
I think most women concentrate on maybe 3 or 4 out of that list, if that.